I have a colleague that always gets distracted by her phone everytime I talk to her. She will shut me out by ignoring me and texting in the middle of a conversation and I don’t know if its done on intention or not. I sat down to think of how I could overcome that and came up with a few negs. Not field tested yet but hope to get some comments on it and test it the next time she does it to me.

When she ignores me:
1) *Place hand on shoulder* You know what? You have the symptoms. You must’ve been diagnosed with ADD before.
2) *Place hand on shoulder* Your parents must’ve been proud. They have taught you well and raised you up to be a fine woman. (Why?) They must’ve taught you to look at your phone when others are talking to you.
3) *points at the floor* OMG!!!! COCKROACHHHH!!!! (Ahhhh!!! Where? Where??) Just checking to see if you were paying attention….
4) *snaps fingers* HELLO!! Get your attention back here!
5) or just freeze her out. Ignore and turn away but don’t let it affect you.

Sometimes, she would see me around the office talking to some colleagues or her and she would ask “Why are you so free? Don’t you have work to do?” in a snappy manner.

When she says that:
1) Wow, I don’t remember you being so snappy. We used to have proper conversations.
2) I may be busy, but I still take the effort to build rapport with my colleagues.
3) Don’t be jealous that I’m not giving you enough attention. You’ll get your turn.
4) *ignores her and asks others* Is she always like that? How do you guys roll with her? (Mystery method)
5) *scans her* Hmm.. I was about to compliment you on your shirt but I guess you don’t deserve it.. just yet.

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when she ignores you walk away show no interest and talk to another woman because obviously from what you said she get's pretty jealous asking about your time with a snappy tone obviously its jealousy.

so with the second part though i say you should ask her "why do you care about my time?" "don't YOU have work to do?" or just go with option 2 saying you put an effort with the colleagues that's my recommendation.

If she's getting snappy with you in the work place, it's not a sign or jealousy. She's showing her dominance over you, and displaying a poor attitude.

It's a major DLV for her and also an IOD for you.

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True. She's trying to AFOG me by giving shit tests. I should remain unaffected by it.

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I think the mystery method line to her snappiness would work... it's showing your not taking her remark seriously, having a joke and getting others on side. With the texting, just ignore her and walk away. She doesn't deserve to hear what you have to say if she's being rude.

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It's a shit test. She's not doing it intentionally, women are subconsciously guided by powers outside their control to pigeonhole men.

You can't take her shit seriously, any reaction like "just checking if you were paying attention" tells her that you CARE about the fact that she's on the phone. You can't let small things like these phase your state control. Likewise, you can't remain too complicit with them otherwise she loses respect for you. The proper response must both show her that you don't care, but that you find it unattractive. It doesn't "bother you," it's just a turn off because you're a preselected male with access to thousands of other vaginas so you find it unnecessary to deal with a distracted one.

I've found 2 solutions that have worked form me.

(1) A complete takeaway. She'll pick up the phone. I'm walking around with her, for 2 minutes i let her stay on the phone while I just staring distractedly elsewhere. Then out of no where, I walk away and do an approach on another girl. It's mind boggling how effective this can be especially if she's a bit into you. It tells her that you are preselected, not phased by her shit tests, AND that you won't tolerate it. It's not "I don't want you talking on the phone because you need to pay attention to me," It's "You can talk on the phone... but my attention is going to go elsewhere then." ABUNDANCE MENTALITY is key.

(2) Doing it twice as much yourself. She sends 2 texts out while you're on a date? You send out 4. She's on the phone while you were talking? You call someone else in the middle of fucking her and tell her to give you a couple of minutes. This method might seem a bit more crude, but it works.

The sarcastic methods and witty responses you mentioned work for light shit tests, but for something direct and border-line rude, you need to unleash the power that is Ass Hole. Don't be afraid to give her a few dick slaps if she deserves it.When in Doubt, Whip it Out. The cunt must obey the cock.

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