The situation:

I approached a girl in the park, opened up very well, excellent midgame, we seemed to have a lot of interests in common, I made her laugh, I saw desire in her eyes, but left after 15 minutes after a natural number-close.

The morning after I texted her a playful message, she said that I'm always welcome in the evening, at her place after work.

I replied that I had already an appointment with a friend (which was true).
She replied that she couldn't meet then untill next week, also playful.
I told her I could move the appointment if she would pamper me a bit, because I normally had a pamper-ourselves evening with this friend (which I mentioned) and asked around what time she would come home from work.
She replied dry the time.
I asked for the adress.
She didn't reply.
I called her, she didn't pick up.
I texted her again, mentioned that I had called because the appointment was unclear.

So I think I was in the beginning a bit 'hard to get', and at the end came over as more needy. What can I do now, without making things worse?
She also told where she worked, as a waitress nearby, but I don't want to come over as a stalker.

It's very strange, it seemed to all go very well. Maybe the 'pampering' sounded a bit too flirty, was I thinking a bit too fast, dunno.

Thanks a lot for advice.

After she didn't respond the first time, how long did you wait until you tried contacting her again?

Normally I would say to just wait a day or 2 before trying again, but since you already tried contacting her 3 times with no response, I would wait like 5 days - a week before trying to contact her again if I were you.

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Giant IOI if she is available anytime after work. You used good DHV because you were busy. She tried to one-up you and say she was busy for a whole week. Then you were like OH CRAP! WAIT! I CAN RESCHEDULE! and blabbered about your life and how you would move everything around to be with her. Not good.

My response: OK, Maybe I'll get in touch next week than.
Maybe send a playful text later in the week or the weekend but with no intention of seeing here, merely keeping the connection until she said she was ready to see you.

Agree with DaveUrkel you should not have continued if she doesn't respond. You have one more text shot to re-engage, and if that doesn't work, sorry dude quit it.

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Thanks for you replies.
I waited for one hour before I called her.
Next time when I have a number close I just say 'hey, I just call if I want to meet you, because I don't like to waste my time on texting back and forth', or something like that. Really f*ck it, I wasted whole my day on it.

Ok I'll try that text shot.
But I'm in doubt of sending her a playful message or a more short serious one.
Because it's my playful and funny side I already showed the most. And I'm truly a bit mad at her.
I'm thinking more about something like this:

'Hey, pity that I didn't hear anymore from you. You seemed nice.
I thought we could have some fun together.'

What do you think?

Ps. what does one-up means exactly?

Yeah, next time when a girl doesn't respond to a txt, just wait until the next day before you try contacting her again.

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I'm also pretty sure now that she didn't try to one-up me.
There's a big theater festival in her city and she is very much into theater (also professional) and it lasts exactly the days she couldn't meet.
I guess she was also very busy, so I will just sent her a text when her life is maybe getting more boring again.

She texted me back to ask to meet all by herself

I guess it means to do more of something than the other person. Like: "you can drink ten beers? Well then I'm gonna drink twenty!" or "so you are busy next week? I am busy until June 2012, motherfucker!"

Anyway, the best possible mindset is not to give a fuck. Just relax and text her next week. Be funny and playful - it's gonna play out somehow. If she does not respond, doesn't matter. Lesson learned, plenty fish in the sea...

Nice bro. If she texted back on her own you're doing alright. Just play it cool like the others said and keep us posted.

Peace

Thanks

We have a date this Wednesday.
I'm asking myself if I should mention something about her not texting back when we wanted to meet at first, and that she texted back then so late.
What do you think?

I know it better be not the first thing to start about, of course
Maybe later on if there is a moment.

do NOT bring up texting timliness. What's to gain? What's the point? What's the objective of that conversation? to make you look dumb? You will show your cards that you are obsessed with her.

Motto: Always portray yourself as laid-back, happy with life, and shes just a bonus. If you bring that up, it sounds like you're hanging on her every move. Girls want someone to be attracted to who has interests & hobbies & a fun life. , not someone to merely be attracted to them with no personality.

Worry about the game with us, in this closed door environment. Forget about these details when you're out in the field.

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Sounds convincing