I went on a date with an HB8 and we ended the night with a wild makeout. She REALLY wanted to have sex but I resisted, this being the first date and after talking to her a while I realized this was a girl I'd like to start a relationship with.

The other day I called her (she mentioned she doesn't like talking on the phone) and her phone rang normally and went to voicemail so I left a message telling her I wanted to do something fun. It's been a day and a half and still no response from her.

Now SHOULD I have slept with her that night? Was that a major flub because I didn't? Can you start a relationship like that? Should I have not have called her and instead texted? And finally and more importantly, what should I do next? My options are text, call, or show up randomly at her work (I don't really know how else to "bump into her")

The thing that confuses me is she was throwing out all kinds of IOIs. Telling me I smelled delicious, saying certain things I did were cute, teasing me, saying I was sexy, reciprocating kino, etc.

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She, being a girl, and being able to have sex with any AFC she wants just by mentioning it, definitely took that as a rejection. She feels like you probably don't like her, probably put her in the friend zone or something. Guys get this all the time, when the AFCs ask or sex and are turned down. Except it's 100x worse for her, because she's a girl, so is unused to that sort of rejection, or probably any rejection. It hit her hard.

I can't think of any way to recover from that but to wait it out, maybe a week from now, invite her out for something fun and specific, like minigolf.

As far as SHOULD you have had sex with her that night, I would have. But that's still a question only you can answer. If you have some moral conviction about not starting a relationship off with sex, then that's your view, and any girl not willing to respect your views on relationships isn't worth your time anyways. You didn't do anything wrong.

Good luck on hearing from her, man!

Well, I really wanted to have sex with her but I didn't want it to be just a one night stand. I don't have any moral conviction against sex on the first date. To be honest, I don't know quite why I didn't just do it... Now I REALLY like this girl (oneitis?) in fact if I fucked up having a relationship with her I'd just like to fuck her and if not even that, to be her friend (she has other hot friends)

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