I met a Polish girl during my lunch break last week, we had a great conversation and have quite a few common interests. I got her number no problem and we arranged to meet up and check out an art festival which went great.

Shes very talkative and is curious about me, in fact she texts me about 5-10 times a day sometimes 2 texts in a row and always before bedtime. Sometimes i freeze her out and don't reply to her texts and she always texts me again. Sometimes the text messages can be quite suggestive but I asked her direct the other day when she asked me to the cinema if it was a date and she said no.

Thing is she told me she doesn't have many friends in London so I'm wondering maybe shes just lonely and looking for attention.

We met for lunch today and I escalated kino, stroking her neck and her back which she didn't resist. I felt like there was one moment where i could have kiss closed but didn't go for it. I playfully slapped her on her bum when we were walking back and she got offended and said 'I'm invading her personal space'.

I'm thinking she could be a little shy physically, maybe not so confident about being direct but then again she could just see me as a friend.

I've been in this situation before with a similar Czech girl but i feel she is slightly different towards me because im playing it better this time. So, I feel im at a critical stage where i need to transfer this into a relationship

any advice?

That whole paragraph made me wince, looks like you had the opportunity missed it, been judged as a wuss/non sexual partner material and then got knock backed afterwards when trying to flirt.

Thats a nice example of steps to friendzoning right there or am I just being a cynical bastard?

Any reason for not trying to kiss her? or just scared of the possibility verbalised rejection over an action vs. rejection for any future sexual context what so ever?

yeah, you're probably right. i'm gonna go for it tomorrow lunchtime then i'll know either way.

just need to read up on a kiss close routine then i'll be set

learn from this... i blew it with a 6ft tall hispanic girl that i was infatuated with. never forgave myself.. if you feel the moment, just say fuck it and go for it. better to know you got rejected than to live with that feeling of "what if"

Trust your gut.

actually ive decided this girl is an idiot, im really not into her at all. in fact shes really annoying and keeps sending me stupid texts. yesterday i met her for lunch and she was all angry with me because i was 5mins late, acting like we were in a relationship already. i dont think i could even bring myself to fuck her

i will just keep her at arms length and play around with her when im bored