Ok, so met a girl on a night out. The night I met her we talked for hours about really personal things and hit it off well, I walked her home and we kissed a few times that night. We speak every day and we've met up 3 times now.
She says though that she has just broken up with an ex of a few years and trying to build her confidence again and be herself, but wants to be friends and keep seeing me as we have been doing.
Shes odd because one minute shes keen then off with me, just wondering what to do as its doing my head in.

There isn't much info, but so far, I'd say you've got a one-way ticket to friend-zone.

Next time you see her, kino escalate, and push further, kiss is "fun" but doesn't mean jack to HBs (not that sex means anything either). If you get LMR, just pull back and act as if it didn't happen, meaning just keep on with conversation and kino. Try again a few minutes later (if LMR again, rinse and repeat). Just don't AFC if you do get LMR.

Don't listen to the words that come out of her mouth, girls will always say this, they don't want to look slutty (every single one of them... ok maybe not nymphos but w/e).

An example that happened to me... HB tells me she only wants me as a friend. I go to her place, have a few drinks, I kino/flirt her, go in for the kiss, she says nah-uh, aren't we just friends? I say, that's not what I want and dig in again and get the kiss. While we kiss, I start pulling her shirt up, she pulls it back down. I start kissing her neck and pull the shirt up again. We move to her bed, rest is history.

Style said it... To get the girl, you gotta risk losing the girl.

Go for it... because either way, you'll "lose" the girl if you don't.

Cheers!

more info: every night we've met up we've kissed goodnight and shes happy to see me and not other lads, i get a lot of mixed signals from her. I dont just want to sleep with her though mate lol

I dissagree with Vanazzul on this one. Gaming a girl to F her is different from gaming a girl you want to date long term.

relentless escalation works at a bar, nightclub, party and so on, but if a girl is on rebound from a bad breakup she has ice walls around her heart and even if you manage to get her in bed she will just view you as rebound and not to be taken seriously. If you just want to fuck her, then by all means risk loosing her.

If you are serious about getting her, I think best approach is to keep doing what you are doing, but mix in some push pull. Act alittle distant at times, and if she calls you out on it pull her in close and go for med kino (kissing, long hugs, smelling her neck things like that). If she is the one to pull away after a while give her a short term freeze out. Don't be a dick, just go back to being distant/uninterested. When she comes back escalate a little more.

Try and keep it light hearted and fun. If she is angry at A guy, she will also be angry at ALL guys. Don't remind her of the things she hates. So just be yourself, but be a little more flirty and sexually in control version of yourself.

Also, be a little patient and work in a lot of devilish teasing and sexual tension in your flirts. You want her to think "I WANT this guy, so why am I holding back?" instead of "HE wants me, but I'm not sure yet".

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Start showing her that your not going to wait around for her. if she isn't keen to make the next step of boyfriend girlfriend ( which i presume is what you want ) then try a freeze out. If a girl thinks a bloke is worth it, they will not let him go.

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