Another unintentionally long post... I'm a girl, though! It's what we do...
I have heard this from several people through out the years. I'm curious if it's true that men have a two day rule about phone calls or texting. No reply all of the sudden when he has already been texting me. Not much, granted, this is still very new. Not even a week and I have only texted him three times. First was reply to his saying he had a lot of fun and wanted to see me again. I said I had a good time, too and maybe. Second was Happy 4th from me, he replied the same. Third was me with are you going to ask me out already? Too direct, maybe? I've already k closed twice with him and we have established shared interest. He keeps trying push-pull, but I'm not budging. If he pushes, I push back and also initiate some pushing of my own.
As for what may look worse than it is, I went out with a friend to the same bar I met this guy at. He works there as a bouncer and the night I met him (Friday) was his first night. (this encounter is here
fr-my-first-attempt-at-being-an-amateur ... 95129.html ) We went back Sunday and I told him I was going before I went. That one was through phone call, lasted a few minutes and I ended it short.
So Sunday I was approached a lot. One guy in particular seemed fine with the idea of an attempted friendship and we have been texting as possible friends. When he approached me, though, he was hitting on me and asking for my number within minutes. I told him I was flattered (He is probably an 8, while the bouncer is a 9), but that I was only flirting with 'that handsome man right over there' and I pointed. He says that he knows him because he works there during the day. He had pulled out his phone while asking for my number and I told him that would make it a little weird for me if I came to see someone else and gave him my number. He instead looks me up on facebook and sends a friend request with a 'just in case you change your mind.'
Bouncer is staring hard at this interaction (so my friend informs me when he leaves). It takes him less than five minutes to be next to me after the other guy is gone. I knew what he was thinking, so to head it off I said that I knew it looked bad, but I didn't give him my number. He misunderstood what I said the first time and says 'yes, I saw you give him your number.' I reiterated and I also told him that I told the other guy I was there to see him. He exhales a deep breath and says 'You didn't?' I shake my head no and he says 'good, because I already told everyone you were here for me, too.'
I get lots of looks when I'm out, I can't control that! And most men enjoy gaining my attention, he seemed no different. So why the cold shoulder all of the sudden??
Back to what looks bad... I got a text a few hours ago asking me if I am going out tonight and would like to meet up from the second guy. Again, just as friends!! I have made that very clear by responding to his fb request with I won't accept until I know you understand what I am looking for and can respect that. He says yes and sends me his number. So we have been talking for the past couple of days.
I do really want to be friends with the guy, he seems very nice and pretty interesting. The problem is that he wants to go back to the same place. What if the bouncer is working? What if he gets the wrong idea? Or should I use this to my advantage and make him jealous? I really don't know if I could do the last one because I don't do well with dishonesty and that is what it would be. I also wouldn't want to use my new possible friend like that right off the bat. That's pretty shady.
So, what the hell do I do with this??
There is a little more that may or may not be significant...
I went out to smoke at one point and second guy follows me out within a minute without being invited. My friend sees and tells the bouncer he should probably check on me. I'm tiny, everyone worries needlessly.
Bouncer is out in less than two minutes. As soon as the second guy comes up to me, my friend has texted me (I really don't understand the drama women try to create for the record, this seems silly and over reacting to me) that he is following me out and had ^5 his friend before following me. I told him to give me just a second so I can call my friend. I was trying to tell her it was fine, but she didn't pick up. As soon as I start my call, he goes and talks to some other people he seems to know in the other direction, well away from me. Bouncer doesn't say anything to me besides zoom, zoom (I drive a miata) and goes directly to guy number two. There seemed to be a little tension there, so I scoot in while they are distracted with each other and try to forget the whole thing. BTW, guy number two saw the bouncer come up to me several times to touch or kiss me before following me out, but after asking for my number.
CHAT
) as G2 and Bouncer. What do you guys think? HD8 and HD9 for "Hot Dude"? Haha!