I took a chinese HB10 girl out tonight for a first date, and she was showing all the IOI. She was making plans for future dates all night. We had established a lot of kino and trust all evening, and I thought I had it in the bag.

As I dropped her off at home we stood at the front of her apartment, and we held eye contact for a bit as I brushed her hair. I went in for the kiss close, but she pulled back, saying 'next time' - kissing me on the cheek instead. I respected that, said goodnight, and walked away.

I'm pretty new to this game, bit of a late bloomer, and a self confessed AFC.
I want to know what I could have said in response to that in a way to get to the next level?

Thanks!

This, in my opinion, would be classified as LMR. (Last minute resistance) And there are plenty of ways to go about it. Mystery does a freeze out, but that may not have worked for the situation considering she was walking out and you were like, dropping her off at her place. 60's method probably would've been best for this, which is where you just don't react at all unless she kisses you. But really, you probably took the best course of action by letting what happened happen, because blasting LMR is hard when you're dropping the chick off. Least it is for me. In my opinion, you'd be better off kissing her at a time when it's less expected and getting the k-close sooner. To be a good pua, you have to be the exception to the rules, right? So if you kiss her at the same time most other dudes would be trying to kiss her (Dropping her off at her doorstep) she kind of knows it's coming and it lowers your chances of actually letting it happen. And doing it when she doesn't expect it is a DHV because it shows that you're spontaneous and that you're not afraid to go for what you want.

You're over thinking this, some girls just don't kiss on the first date. Like she said, try it the next time, and if she rejects you again...then you have a problem.

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This means she definately wants to see you again and want to make sure it happens by holding out as much as she can. Although you built comfort and established many plans for future dates - maybe that just wasn't enough for her. After all it was HER making the plans for future dates and not you right? If it were you making the plans for future dates she may feel more comfortable that you intend on taking her out on more dates and that its OK for her to let your guard down on the first date. It will make her feel comfortable with you and will give her the impression that your relationship will be a long lasting one. By holding out, that is her way of making sure there will be more dates if you want to get to the next step with her.

On a positive note - it means she likes you. On a negative note, you may have to wait a while to get in her pants.

Watch Gambler's free stealth part 2 videos on Youtube for a more detailed way of building future plans with her without seeming like you're way too into her and therefore giving her all the power (make future plans with her but say it jokingly).

Hope this helps

No biggie bro like Bmaster said. Take her out for another date and see what happens.

Just chill

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