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I tend to have that problem. I never really addressed it until recently:
You see, I met this girl at a friends party, after some initial facebook postings, I got her number but never really moved on.
After a few months we got back in touch again and this time my text game had become much more solid. It was really good practice. I was multi-threading and generating future projections like nothing.
So eventually, I invited her to Karaoke with some of our friends and she agreed. Although the night started off slow, we were holding hands by the end. SHE invited me to a movie with her friend the next day.
All excuses aside, I wasn't really talking much, but kept strong kino.
After that, we were still texting but it became apparent that she was losing interest.
She always said she was busy or was tired everytime I asked her to do something.
Well I started picking up on it, but didn't know what to do. I guess I lost my cool and came on even stronger. I'm pretty sure that didn't help. Eventually it completely fizzled out. I saw her at another friends party. Being relatively new to this stuff, i though I would ask her what i did wrong to fix my game.
Heres what she said:
"Honestly, I really was attracted to you and really did like you. But for some reason I started losing those feelings. I think it was because we were moving too fast. Honestly, I don't think our relationship will ever go beyond Friendship."
That being said, I can deduce that Attraction isn't my problem. I'm pretty sure its Midgame/Comfort building, kino-escalation, or even Buyer's remorse.
I want to fix my game. I need your help.
First off, there is no such thing as moving too fast. EVER.
With each girl you meet you have to qualify them as just fuckable, or as fuckable with GF potential.
The approach to both are exactly the same, with one difference. After you have nailed them as fast as you can, you either ignore them or work out a FWB situation, or you actually start dating them instead. Up until that point there is absolutely NO difference in the approach.
Moving to fast is her way of saying "you were doing everything right, but then had a chance to second guess you before you scored, so basically you're an AFC".
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