I've had a nice little success streak for some 4-5 months now. During that time I've picked up some 10 girls from night clubs. Some I banged after the night, some I agreed to meet later on. I usually called the girls to come to my place for a movie and then tried to bang them after the movie was over. This usually didn't work as the girls felt they didn't know me well enough or some other LMR. Pretty soon I found these movie-dates repetitive and also boring so I either met these girls at the clubs some random times or never met them again.

However this one girl never even wanted to come to my place for a "first date". So we ended up for a coffee and it was boring as shit even though the girl was hot. I think the whole experience was a little awkward and after the experience I've come to believe that dating is boring. But is it still necessary to get things going?

Now I want you guys to know that by dates I don't mean the traditional dating frame. I don't buy the girls coffee and shit, dating is just a word normal people use for day2s. However my problem is that I don't find dates interesting. I can't hang around with new girls like I hang around with my guy friends. I don't go shopping clothes 3 times a week so I don't use the "shopping mall-technique" for dating. And since I don't want to be "needy" (yes pua mindframe) I hate to do something only because I'm supposed to in order to deepen the relationship with the girls and bring me closer to the lay.

The underlying problem here is I'm afraid of losing the attraction I've already built up since dating really is a new thing for me. But I realize that meeting girls only inside clubs while drunk isn't enough if I want to develop myself in this area. I just have to reframe this somehow in order to enjoy dating.

So what do you guys usually do on dates? How do you take the frame that it is fun? What do you usually do after the dates? Right now I got a serious situation with a hot babe and I really don't want to see her only in the clubscene. But I feel dating her would be boring too! What do?

Simple answer, make sure your dates are not boring!

I'm guessing your problem with dating is that you go out dating in an environment where you are forced to talk to each other, which can get boring and difficult after a while (to be honest, some girls can be quiet shallow and do not have their opinion on topics you bring up).

So what I do is try and come up with creative and most importantly active dates. This really depends on the area you live in. I took a date of mine out jetski-ing a couple of months back and it was one of the best dates I had. It connects you to the girl because you are sharing an experience and are not forced (during this activity I wasn't even able) to talk to each other. You get to have lots of fun, experience new things and have loads to laugh and talk about afterwards.

There are a lot of options to discover so have a look around what you can do in your area.

Another good one is renting a Vespa scooter for a day and driving around town on a sunny day (SPAM required of course).

I hope this helps and let us know how it went!

Thanks for the tips!

Unfortunately my town is so small that there are not too many activities to do here (well i guess there are if you do enough research). Anyhow I decided to take the frame of "i dont give a shit" and called her to come to my place. Didn't even state that we're gonna watch a movie or anything. She came, we watched a movie and since she had her periods she just jerked me off. All good

Lessons I have learned during the past 6 months as I have had some srs sh*t going on with about 10 chicks or more:

- Don't be afraid to lose her - ask her out despite of your fears.

- Lay back and relax. Don't take it too seriously. In my case I'm comfortable in inviting chicks to my place for "dates" and they have worked pretty nicely. Just do what feels comfortable and invite the chick to join you. Watching movies is pretty casual imho.

- Don't be too needy and contact her every day. However as I tried to follow this advice I managed mess sh*t up pretty badly as I contaced some of the girls maybe once every two weeks. If you haven't sexed them already then they're just going to forget you. Or get a new guy. Once or twice a week is fine. What ever feels good to you. But I missed many opportunities just because I "tried to play it cool and not be needy".

- Don't want to be in the situation where you can't figure out anything to say? Srsly just listen to what the girls say and ask more questions about them using the information they already gave you. Also funny thing I noticed: when the girls say they click with me the best and feel like "they've known me for years" or that it's easy to have convo with me it's when I'm pretty much just listening to them and giving them more topics to talk about. When I do most of the talking the girls don't seem that interesting... it's their job to do the talking, not ours.