So, shes flaked like thrice on me now. We've gone out before a couple times, and she's always said that she loved the exp, that it was very unique. But recently her behavior has changed. So I've decided not to invite her out anymore, not for a while at least, yet... she keeps her foot in the door. Whenever I'm online she'll start convos and keeps one mentioning "how much she loves talking to me, and that its hard for her to find people she can be this intimate with, that most other people are very boring"
Lately though, I've been toning down the convos, and I've even avoided facebook for days just to avoid talking to her, because I know that if i get online she'll start a chat... Sometimes its immediately, for a while she would wait, but would cave in after seeing that i wasn't gonna start one (however, i did start a couple convos cuz of the 2/3s rule, of course in my case it was more like the 1/10th rule). Still, if I'm gone for more than 4-5 days its immediate. Still, she flaked on me last Sunday, just for a casual walk around town and a bit of talk, nothing big, I've told her how I prefer real talk over virtual shit, as 90% of communication is non-verbal.
So I've started to be a bit more cold during our talks, keep busy with other stuff, and give shorter answers and whatnot. But now shes pulling strange shit... For example today She started the convo, but before i couldn get a decent talk about something going ( i was gonna do some NLP bf destroyers, and some stuff about going for what you really want, since i feel thats the problem. So i started with a simple fluff question). She responded with "telefone" and left me on hold, and then left. I didnt really make a big deal of it, i was talking to a couple other girls at the time and left some proof so that she knows that theres competition. Thats my recent strategy now based on her actions.
But still.... what is she playing at?? Why would she start a convo, if shes not gonna talk??
Talking to a few girls at work about it, one of the told me that its very likely she feels guilty about seeing/talking to me. Because she likes me. But bc of the bf shes starting to feel guilty. And shes flaking because she doesnt think she can keep herself from cheating on him next time we meet (Ive been playing it slow, but escalating each time, and shes allowed it, not only that, but reciprocated a few times as well). That she realizes that her LDR may not last much longer, but want to play things out, so because she undecided, shes keeping me on the pinch.
Pretty much this girl has a long distance bf, and i figure that when she first went out with me, she was using me to make the bf jealous, now i didnt know about the bf at the time, otherwise i would have been more aggressive, w/e. But, i figure, she didnt expect to end up liking me (she didnt know i was me
) I know on V-day she had an arguement with him, so theres turmoil... however, given her recent change in behavior, i think its safe to assume they made up or something, still afaik, she hasnt seen him since December. So for some reason, shes playing games. Dunno, guess she likes the attention, and thinks its a good way to keep me hooked or something. I did slip up a few times and said a few things taht implied i was very interested in her, but honestly that works in my favor imo...
So my game plan now, is really to fool around with other girls, and leave proof, im not gonna invite her out to anything until she ditches the bf, or for a handfull of weeks at least... im gonna continue to be friendly, and act unaffected by her games, but im also gonna start creating more and more distance, at least until its a good time to try and pick shit back up again, or until she leaves the bf. Also, next talk i can have with her... ill use it exclusively for BF destroyers (maybe an "example" of a friend who was cheated on, and heartbroken because she believed what some tool 'said' to her), and some NLP.. no more intimate, philosophical talks about life, or fun jokes, or anything like that... im not her clown.... Im also gonna leave traces that i have other girls following me and ive already left a few traces, but im gonna leave more, make her realize... if she doesnt make a move soon, she may lose what she wants, and end up witha shitty failed relationship thats falling apart.
Wow... that post was longer than i expected it to be.... damn
well, any feedback is much appreciated, i feel like the girl from work was spot on, she really opened up my eyes, but guys are plenty exp too, so your input is valued
anyways... Cheers
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