Ok, so I met this HB9 a few weeks ago that a female friend works with, I had stopped by her work to meet her for a drink, and she introduced me to a coworker.

So later on, she's telling me about the coworker, so I ask my friend to invite her out for drinks with us next time.

So a few weeks later, she asks the girl out with us, telling her it was my idea to invite her, since I thought she was cute. That was cool, I was glad she came out with us knowing that info.

So we had a great time, and the next day my friend told her I was interested, and she told my friend to give me her #.

Ok, going perfect so far.

So I text her the next day, which was sat, and she texts me back later on that night, she was out in Boston w/friends. Good sign that she texted me back while she was out, I was thinking.

So we text back forth the next week, and then we make plans to go out during the week. We went out on a wed night, not last wed, but the week before. We had a good time, we were there from about 5:30 to almost ten, we sat at the bar and talked, had a few drinks, and split a desert.

So the weekend goes by, and last monday I try to make plans for that week, but she can't, she's all booked up. So I say, okay, how about dinner Tues night (meaning this tues). She agrees.

Next morning I get a text saying "please don't kill me, but I might not be able to make it Tues, I might be taking my mom out to dinner". Ok, no prob, mom comes first. However, she didn't offer an alternative night, other than "I'll keep you posted".

I'm kind of thinking she's not really interested. If I text her, she'll reply, but she never initiates. And like I said, no offered alternative to tues night.

One thing my friend told me is that she really IS busy, she has plans every weekend till April, and does alot during the week. She thinks I should give her the benifit of the doubt.

I just hate to waste my time, I really do want to date her, but if she doesn't feel the need to make time for me, I'm not hanging around waiting for her, and I don't want to have to chase her.

It might be all in my head, maybe she just IS busy...and my friend says she's not dating anyone else.

Is there anything I can do as far as text game or whatever to heighten her interest or attraction?

Is this a lost cause, or am I just overthinking and need to step my game up?

My plan of action is to text her with a simple hey what's up kinda thing, then maybe suggest thurs night for going out.

This is actually pissing me off a little...I can feel myself going all AFC over this girl.

Ok, what do you guys think?

This girl might be amazing, but dont go AFC.
She honestly might be super busy.
With my own experience in being so busy with school and work I too find it hard to date sometimes. Having to put your priority's first really sucks and you do miss a lot of open doors that come your way when your trying to pursue your career.
She prob really does want to meet with you, but hasn't found the time yet.

At this time all you can do is say next.
Dont rap your mind around her right now, focus on other things, other girls.
Just when you least expect it you will get a text from her.

Thanks for the advice, I think you're right.

I just get neurotic sometimes.

I resisted the urge to text her last night or today, I figured I'd give it a few more days.

I just heard from her a little while ago... she can't make it tues, but asked if I was free wed.

So that's cool, it looks like it's still on.

I think she really IS busy, I need to chill and give her the benefit of the doubt. She's still in that "just got out of college and all my friends always want to hang out phase". That'll wear off eventually I'm sure.

I was debating saying I had plans wed (I don't, other than the gym), but I'm going to go. She put the effort to make time on wed, so I'm not going to F around with her trying to play game. If she's being sincere, there's no reason why I shouldn't be as well.

it's a shit test,.... if she keeps canceling and you keep saying okay, well how about this day... cancels, okay well how about this day, cancels... well how about this day?... yeah she's going to lose attraction fast.... When you two talk again... just say don't say anything else but" lol okay that's it, I've lost my patience miss too-busy-to-have-a-social life. We ARE going out this sunday (make it sunday she won't have set plans).... I don't care if you have plans! cancel them lol. I will pick you up at *insert time see you then

Reply A: I can't *insert bullshit reason here* you reply, yes you can i'm coming like it or not

of if she replies

Reply B: hmm maybe I'll try to make it sunday
you reply "your growing up young lady, baby's try adults get things done, i'll see you sunday


or just put her reply here

Nice! I like that. I'm definitely going to try that next time.

Just an update...

Just got back from our date. We went out to dinner had a very nice time. The conversation flows very well ,and we seem to have alot in common.

At one point we were talking about working out, and she said what all females say "I need to lose like ten lbs". So I was like "from where??" And she's like "everywhere! ... you haven't seen me naked yet".

Of course I pick up on that, so I say, with a cocked eyebrow "yet?"

And she's like "yet wasn't the key word of that sentence!", So I say ok, we'll see.

But anyway, the kicker came when the check came. I grabbed it, and took out my wallet. As I set the check down in front of me, she reached over and snatched it away. She insisted on paying. I argued, and tried to leave the tip, but she wouldn't even take that.

I was very impressed. Honestly, I can be cheap with girls that I'm not really into, but her, I had 100% planned on paying the whole check.

She told me she talked to one of her coworkers (an aquaintance of mine, I know all her coworkers through the friend that initially introduced us), and he told her that she should pay this time, since I paid last time. She also said besides that point, she's not the type of girl who believes the guy needs to pay for everything.

I take this as a very good sign...the fact that she's talking to mutual aquaintences about us dating, and the fact that she has no problem payng for me. I actually thought she'd want to keep us dating on the DL for now, since everyone she works with knows me, but apparently she doesn't care that they know.

So all in all, a good night. I really have to sack up though and K close. I feel like we're building an attraction, but I really need to step it up in the physical dept. I'm fine with taking things slow since I really like her, but next date will be #3, so I really need to K close next time. I think if I wait any longer I'll start to slip into the friend zone.

Yeah man, the kiss close should happen soon. This girl seems to be into you, and you seem to be pretty interested in her as well. Be sure not to revert to AFC.

if you slow dance with her somewhere, that might make it super easy to k close