So I have a friend I don't see that much, other than at parties. She is kind, easy going and fun, it's everything I look for in a woman and I never thought I had a chance with her, she adored me for my drunk antics.
I don't want to be that guy anymore, so at the last party (her birthday), I had showed her a different side to me. I made a joke about being boyfriend material, later she qualified herself by saying she would make a good girlfriend.
Later when she said she was cold, I put my arms round her to keep her warm and when I stopped, she said she was cold again and asked me to continue. An indictator
of interest, if she wasn't comfortable with me making kino, then she would have said.
I didn't try and kiss her, but she likes to hug me.

My problem guys, is turning this in to a relationship.
I am still a AFC, I only turned to PUA to better myself and learn some skills to find a girlfriend.

Should I ask her out next time I see her at a party?
Should I text her and to test the water with a subtle text game?
Should I ask her to meet up with me?

I have much self doubt and my theory is that she was just being nice to me, I am familiar with friendzone. I need to her to know, that I don't just want to see her every now and then, I want her in my life.

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I notice the same problem i was having. I was affraid to pull the trigger.

the next time u see her, do not be affraid of the results. If she has qualified herself to u, u are allowed to show your interest. If you don't, u will end up in de friend-zone.

So I should definately just wait until I see her next?
I have no idea when that could be, could be month, a week, who knows.
I probably would wait, but I figured I started a momentum and to keep that going, I need to stay in touch.
When I say friend, it isn't a close friend or anything.

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did she give you her number?

if so, text her. build some attraction and comfort over text. then when u feel the timing is right, go for the meet up like this:

"We are having a party next Saturday, you and your friends should come.”
“A group of us are going to the park Sunday, you and your friends should come.”
“We are getting bottle service at X tonight, you and your friends should come.”
“What are you guys up to tonight brat? We might be going to X, you guys should meet us.”
“Your mission if you and your friends choose to accept it is to go to X around 11ish. This message will self destruct in 15 seconds. ; )”


Pick one that fits. Don't send the "meet me" text to soon, and after she agrees, dont stop texting. the last thing she should remember is something playfull imo. perferably a slight tease, where she qualifies after. then stop texting for the day.




Oh and the next time you see her....go for the K-close !

I've known her a while, she used to work in the same place as me, but still see her at social events. Had a number a while too. But I've never been that close to her, yet everytime I see her I just feel like we get on so well, I don't feel that way about any other woman I've ever met.
It's like being a kid again, you know.

It's only now, I'm revealing my more confident side, that hell yeah, I'd be the best boyfriend you'll ever have side. I asked one of her friends who I still work with, today, if she was available. She said go for it.

Thanks bro, I think I'll look in to building comfort, and I guess it will show interest because I've never text her more than a few times you know. Surely she'll see the difference.

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gl. keep ur texts playfull and brief, and u will fix the meet-up easy! it sounds like u 2 have an actual chemistry.

I was actually gonna write up a pretty comprehensive guide to getting out of "the friend zone" on here, after having done it with a few girls whom I thought it would be impossible with. Who knows, I might still do it.

Normally I would advise you to allow a break from any contact with the girl for a while if you've been in constant contact with her. But since it seems like you don't see her that often, I think you'll be in the clear.

One thing I would stress is to break any sort of rapport that you've built with her. By this I mean step out of the facade that your 'friend' sees you as. One of my old friend's saw me as a cocky (as a result of too much cocky/funny), smart, caring guy who was always there for her. All good characteristics, but unfortunately, she still thought of me as a friend, and only that.

After giving her about a month of no contact during Winterbreak, I started commenting on how cute her smile was, looking at her differently in a more sexual way, holding eye contact for longer, and just acting like less of a friend, and more of a seductive figure. Since we were such close friends before, I was actually able to do this all under the radar with our little inside jokes, so I didn't come off too strong.