Hey guys. basically we have been friends for years and then started to sleep together as we are both single. But, I do actually really like her as shes really cool and pretty. But...she's always saying shes not ready for a relationship, and its hurting me to think I'm just sleeping with her until someone else comes along that she wants to be with. I want to be her boyfriend but she is also seeing other people and appears to be totally fine with me seeing other people even though I only want her.
At first i thought I could be OK with it...just go along with it and see if she comes around, but Ive had to tell her that its all or nothing which has ended up with her saying we shouldnt sleep together any more because we are looking for different things and its getting complicated. I told her I couldnt see her anymore then, which upset her because she thought I meant as a mate, which I did, but then I changed my mind because I didnt want to upset her.
Now I know for a fact I cant imagine hanging out with her without having these feelings and without wanting to do anything physical with her. As far as she knows we are fine as just friends again and will sort out meeting up this week to try it out again. But like I say, I don't wanna be friends. And its going to continue to make me feel bad knowing that shes seeing other people, AND we arent even friends with benefits any more. Any advice guys other than GFTOW? I told myse;f I'd get out of the friend zone even if it meant losing her as a friends, and everything Ive done since then has just lead us to sleeping together but ME still having all these feelings and not her.
I can't JUST be her friend....but i daren't tell her that because i don't wanna ruin any chance I could have from this point of her wanting me. If i say it's all or nothing, she'll just go mad and thats it
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