Dear gamers,
I'm is this realy nasty situation:
There's a girl who has a boyfriend (2,5 years), it turns out that we both like each other and she loves me back. We are all (the girl, her bf and me) at the same classes.

I've kissed with her a few times, been over her place (cuddling, hugging etc. NO SEX or anything, she didn't want to "cheat" ).

This went on for about 2-3 weeks, sending texts emails been there 4 times.
I thought I was there...

Turns out that she's going back to her bf, she can't leave those "2,5 years that she has spend time and engergy in" behind. She says that he is the perfect BF and it still feels great and nice with him, then I start wondering why the hell did you start flirting with me and why the hell did you let me in??

Her feelings toward me are genuine, first i doubted about it, but they are real.
The night she told me she was going for her BF, she lost her self controle and jumped me and started kissing me wildly (Nice ).

Her plan was to stay BEST buddy's, wich means i can get a hug now and then maybe a little kiss but nothing more.... F*CK THAT!
So not just friends but the best friend she has ever had, "with a golden crown" she said....

I know I can't do that, becouse every time I see her I get reminded that I will never have her....

I went over to her place, told her that i couldn't go on like this. And we need some time alone. She started crying.

I left, seen her on university the other day. Wich was ofcourse awkward.

My problem being: I do not want to lose this girl!
I know that she is the perfect woman for me...
And she coulnd't find any bad spots on me either, she said.

My plan was to keep distance, let her feel that she is losing me. (hoping she wil come back crying...) How ever I don't know if that is going to work, becouse she has her fail safe: her BF....

OR should I give in and be her best "friend" so I can still spend lots of time with her and keep the tension??? (although her mind tels her im just a friend....)
I will be seeing her all the time, becouse she is on the same uni and classes.
I will see her on every party I will go....

What I want: This girl comming back to me....

How to accomplice that?

If you guys need more info on our relationship please ask for more.

Thanks in advance

Forgot some thing:

Her horse died 2 days ago, so thats bad.
She texted me...
I replied saying oh my got etc. how bad for you....
Keeping it shallow, becouse i said we need distance....

however the same evening, i got drunk with mates (just having a good time)
She send me another text (saying she wanted to send me one last email with every thing in it, but that has to wait becouse of her problems with horse etc...)

On wich i replied, while being severely drunk, " noproblem ill give you all the time you need bla bla bla, i understand how you feel bla bla bla, I love you soo much!! kisses.

STUPID ME.... Here is another example of why you shouldnt drink...
you break your own standards....

anyway please reply...

Hi man,

Well, seems like your in some nasty shit right here. Anyways, she has a boyfriend which complicates things a whole bunch. I wouldn't go for this tho, being a gf stealer is always frowned upon.. but yeah well if you are sure she is the perfect girl for you.

I'd do what most guys do in here, let her see you're the best oppurtunity. Keep her befriended, but not too close, distance yourself and neg her a bit.. but only soft and sweet. Not in a crude way, make sure you keep it 'lose' between you guys.

When you go to a party or anything, DO NOT speak to her. Ignore her completely, she'll be something like "Hey why isn't he talking to me while he does that in texts and stuff?"
When she comes over to you, put on a FTC or anything like that and get the hell out of there. Flirt with other girls right before her eyes, but do not kiss the girls. Make them laugh, show them tenderness & sweetness. Trust me, she'll notice. Once you start giving the attention she had before, on the same way, to other girls, she's going to miss it getting it from you.

Cheers
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My 2 cents: She is a two timer. If she doesn't mind fooling around with you even when she is in a relationship then there is no guarantee that she won't do that to you! She knows that she is hot and can get any guy!

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I've had the a completely identical problem, but basically I fell into the same situation as you. She had a boyfriend, her feelings for me were genuine, even though she loved her boyfriend. I've kissed her before and shes kissed me, and we cuddled but had never gone past that because she didn't want to cheat. This went on for a span of a year and I pretty much fell in to the best friend zone, always being there to listen to her problems and shit but at the same time basically being led on by her everytime we talk and hang out.

At times I would get pissed and I would stop talking to her and she would always come back to me, and I would always take her back. Throughout the whole time of ever having conversations of her breaking up with her BF, she would always just tell me what I would want to hear and never do anything. So eventually it just got to the point where I was like fuck it, I'm just gonna live my life and not make you the priority anymore, and she got angry and we stopped talking. Haven't talked to her in 3 months and it sucks bro, but honestly the best thing to do is to move on, you'll be stuck in that friend thing FOREVER. I was in it for over a year and they are pretty much just a leech to you at the point even though you have feelings for them.

Long story short, they're not going to change. You just need to move on and find someone else.

She's using you as a backup. Take some time apart. Think deeply about why you think this girl is "perfect", and what sets her apart from any other hot chick. If she's really that much better to you, then get your game right and nail her. Don't be her little shoulder to cry on!

Definitely a tough spot to be in. I'm in something similar only she just got back together with her bf a day or two ago. She keeps telling me that I was too slow and acting all bummed out that I didn't ask her out before he did. Now she wants to be friends and junk... I really like this girl and we get along famously. What's the deal?

Anyways I hope you you figure it out Tbag, I know how you feel.

So Mr.Reality,
What game do you suggest then?
Haven't talked to her yet, she send me some texts saying i make her confused etc.
(I still greet her when I see her, but no real talking.)
Sorry for my late reply ---> was on a holiday!
greetings!

She wants to have her cake and eat it too. You're being like an orbiter just circling around waiting for her to decide if she sticks with her bf or not.

Just tell her straight, you have feelings for her but aren't gonna sit on the sidelines waiting to be brought on and get on with your own shit.