| Hey guys Ive got a massive problem which got me into the whole pick up thing in the first place. I'll try and make this ongoing drama brief...but if you were to see my other posts then basically they're all on about the same girl....
Long time friends, she moves away, gets into relationship
2 years later they split we start hangin out again n she moves back to our home city
I get friend zoned (my introduction to pick up)
Eventually pull this back and we started hooking up
Much later on we're having sex....done this about 5 times now and one pregnancy scare
So now we're 'friendly friends' but.....
She sees this only as a no strings thing as we're mates, but I want to be exclusive with her. I thought Id come this far it shouldnt be too much to ask.
So new years morning we're lying ther after having sex the night before and she asks what im upto for the rest of the weekend bla bla...ands she tells me she'll be meeting someone for a drink. This really pissed me off but I kept my cool while i was still there.
Later that morning after leaving I text her saying dont meet that guy for a drink, she calls, we talk and I go back round to sort this out.
The results of this is her once again saying that basically she wants to be single for a bit....we don't know what will happen further down the line...shes sound with me seeing other people too so the whole jealousy thing doesnt seem to be working.
I havnt seen her since that and now its like it was before where Im always chasing her and now shes not even replying sometimes to texts. I know shes got options cus she is really good looking. Im hating being seen only as a time filler til her next relationship but at the same time I keep thinking if Im able to sleep with her more and more, and make myself seem less attached, she'll come around.
As it stands though shes not playing into any of the old games and jokes we had in our texts, and she seems to be responding to me like she did when the attraction wasnt there. Im trying to not be available but always end up getting in touch first. After how far i've come with her, shes dating around and doesnt seem like she wants no strings thing with me...even after I went back on what I said new years day, and said its fine to carry on how we were. Its all games even as Ive typed this she just replied to a text I sent hours ago. What do I do?!!
Ive got another really big question. I know that this pick up stuff is very useful I mean, I got out of the friend zone and actually dare do kino and all that stuff now. But I don't want to sleep around with lots of girls, I really do just want one quality girl. All my life Ive suffered with oneitis every time Ive had a chance with a girl, and it's always got in the way of making things happen. But, when im over them, they always come back for the attention (in fact, the last girl I got all crazy for is this current girls friend, and now I dont see her as anythig more than a friend she actually seems to show IOI's and initiates meeting up)
How can I make sure I dont let oneitis spoil my chances evry time as I do get super jealous and tend to do too much chasing when Ive got it bad?
And once again, with this FWB I have now, how should I go about getting her to want to meet up and stuff again, as well as get her to see me as boyfriend material but without seeming like Im constantly hassling her to meet me?
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