Hey guys, I've seen this girl a few times, at 2 different parties. First party we just slept on the couch together, made out once and spent the next day chilling. I texted her a few times, but she got distant.

See her again weeks later at another party and this time we basically pick up where we left off, except we make out a lot more and in front of her friends. And she was very aggressive when we went to sleep, almost grabbing my package. Her friend happened to be in the room and said "Dont have sex" like 4 times, so i'm pretty sure she didnt wanna look like a slut in front of her friend.

Anyways, we spent the next day together and actually went to the beach. Got a hotel room with one of our friends, went in the jacuzzi and she had no problems with sitting on my lap with me sitting in my boxers. I ended up carrying her to the hotel room and we went to sleep.

This time afterwards she actually seemed interested in her texts, and we even had some very sexually suggestive joking. I was actually able to get her on the phone a few times too, and told her she could come over this weekend because we were having a little get together. I waited a whole day before texting or calling her again. Didnt wanna look needy. We had a few texts back and forth last night, now today is the day I wanted her to come thru. I called and we had a good conversation, then she asked what im doing today, and I basically acted like I was expecting her to come, I didnt wanna look unsure or lack of confidence. Might have been my downfall though, anyways. She said she was supposed to go to some sleepover and she thought my thing was during the day. I said no, it was gonna be a later in the day thing. I told her I wanted her to come, but that was all the cards I was showing. I think I messed up saying that verbatim and should have said something like "it'd be really cool if you came", anyways. She said she would call some people and call me back.

I'm really thinking I showed too much interest, but then again, we've slept in the same bed multiple times, nearly had sex. I feel like on one hand I need to still play it cool, but on the other she could have just said no on the spot and not even left the possibility of coming over.

Where do you guys think I stand and advise me to go from here?

If she says she cant, which my gut says, I'm gonna definitely say something to the effect of "All good! All good! Time misunderstanding, we'll do something another time!" I'm definitely not gonna act like it ruined my day. But again, I'm having problems gauging where I'm at with her based on whats happened.

she want 2 have sex! just isolate her, inviter to somehwere that there's not other people around! and give it to her. if you don't have sex soon, she'll forget about you lol i don't think she's tryna take time.

(Seriously, what's with everyone on this forum being obsessed with being indirect and being scared of seeming needy?)

If you don't fuck her soon someone else is going to, and you'll lose her.

Look, if a girl likes you you don't need to focus on "not showing all your cards", in fact that's probably the worst thing you can do when a girl is into you because it only holds you back from getting laid. You're taking the whole acting aloof and not showing interest thing too far. You haven't showed enough interest I don't think... I mean sleeping with her and not fucking her was a bad idea.

You must have heard guys talk about when you have time windows where a girl will want you to escalate? If you miss these windows thats it, you're pretty much done. You're in the friendzone....

Where to go from here? I agree with everything Lucky D said

Yah, she backed out of last night. I agree, I felt stupid for not fucking that night, but both her best friends were in the same room, and that seriously made it difficult, I could've pushed it just a bit, but ya, I might've pushed her too far if I did I think. I dunno, I called her at 8 last night to see whats up and she waited an hour before just texting me that she couldnt come. I played it cool telling her to have a great time. So I'm not sure how much is actually there anymore, she might still be interested but didnt wanna tell me no on the phone. Shes like an 8 or 9, so its not that im trying to play it aloof as much as im trying to maintain interest without sounding like every guy that hits on her.

I dunno where I stand, I might just send a whats up text, my roommate thinks I should just put her on ice and give her a break for a minute.

Very annoying, but that's why we play this game!

What do ya'll think, keep talking to her like nothing happened or put her on ice for a day or 2?

I don't know, sounds like she's lost interest, and it's going to be hard to get it back now. There's no harm in keeping trying until she completely ignores you or tells you to fuck off, but you need to drop this idea of being aloof and holding back, because that is exactly what most other guys do believe it or not. Next time you need to fuck her, and any other girls you meet, get it done quickly