Recently I met this really cool chick at a party and we hit it off great, got her number and made out and all that. Since then I have only texted her to see what she was doing one night, but she was just gonna chill with her girlfriends for the evening. I want to know a surefire way to get her out on a date with me, ya know, something she CANNOT say no to... an offer she cant refuse lol.

She is kinda shy so I think something like going out dancing at a club would be too heavy for her, for lack of a better word. So I was thinking about telling her one morning I would be at a cafe near her house and that shes free to join me if she likes.. but this seems like it would give her an easy opportunity to say no.

So Im not sure if I should be direct and say ''I'm taking you on a date at this time and wear this'' or if I should make it more of an invitation to just spend some time if she wants.

Personally I would say "I'm gonna take you out one time and show you how to have a good time". If she is shy she might appreciate it.

Here are the most effective ways to ensure a non-flakey day 2 (where 1 is the most effective):

1. Arrange the day 2 at the time you do the pickup, before n-closing, based on a commonality you two share that you've discovered through talking with her.
2. Arrange the day 2 at the time you do the pickup, before n-closing.
3. Arrange the day 2 after n-closing and calling her a day later
4. Arrange the day 2 after n-closing and texting her a day later

Me personally, I like to arrange a day 2 that's just me and her. This is because I don't want to have any other logistical problems getting in my way (e.g. arranging a club night, her coming with her friends, having to make sure they're happy, dancing, fighting off cockblocks/amogs, winning over her friends, etc. etc.) and also because it makes it very clear that we are meeting to get to know each other for the purposes of pursuing a sexual relationship. It also helps that I have likely approached her and told her that I think she's hot and I want to get to know her, so this reinforces the idea that we are going to be FUCKING.

Since option 1&2 are out of the question for you, I would suggest you CALL her and have a fun, flirty conversation.

Things to help you have a fun, high energy conversation that will make her look forward to seeing you again and not think you are a boring gay.

(A) Call a friend or somebody who makes you laugh and you vibe well with right before. Tell them a couple of funny stories or have them tell you some. Be laughing and literally hang up and immediately dial her so you don't have time to think and are still in that happy joking mood.

(B) SMILE. You can actually tell by the sound of someone's voice whether they're smiling or not over the phone. DO IT.

(C) Have a couple of stories noted down or in your mind. You might want to launch right into one immediately to get her interested and laughing.

(D) Time constraint

(E) Mention a bunch of shit that you're interested in doing over the next week - again you can have a magazine in front of you or notes - when one of them piques her interest - there's your day 2.

(F) Give a false dichotomy choice to her - "wednesday or thursday?" because the assumption is she's going and it's a matter of picking a day.

(G) Have your second funny story or something lined up for after the day 2 is set up, and then leave her wanting more by saying you gotta go before she does. Don't spend too much more than 10 minutes on the phone.

[This is true of all conversations with women, whether in person, over the phone or over text]: do NOT be afraid to be flirty, take the conversation sexual, and make fun of her (in a good natured way). Take as many opportunities as possible to introduce sexual innuendo, and insinuate or purposely misinterpret that she's hitting on you or is acting naughty/horny.

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A few days ago I called her up and immediately noticed she was in a shit mood and not happy go lucky like she was when I got her number. But thats why we play the game, so I thought of something to say that got her talking about her new years eve and she snapped out of it. After chatting her up about 5 minutes I told her I wanted to take her out for her birthday which was on Dec. 8 (belated I know but I didnt know her at the time and I scheduled it for a month after her bday, January 8, which she thought was so romantic.) I had a date with a beautiful girl to go dancing downtown at some trendy spots, and we all know a feeling like this.

But she called the next day with some long excuse about seeing some friends who were going to be in town for that night only (i knew it wasnt important\probably not true) so I just told her ”hey no worries, my friends band is playing that night anyways, Ill just go to that.” I parted with a ”you know how to get a hold of me” instead of telling her I would call her soon, which Im going to anyway because I like this girl. But for now Im gonna give her a week-long freeze out.

Did I handle this frosted flake the right way??

Bravo mate,

You did the right thing when freeze her out for her flaking on you, but notice not to give a hint that you are angry at her because it will make you look like you are clingy and affected, be totally cool about going for your friends concert

For a sure fire day 2, my method is often get a day 2 planning right when you first met her, cause she will still feel attraction to you (no buyer's remorse) and if you both agreed on doing something together, there is lower chance she will flake.

But if you forget to do it on day 1, here is how I normally do it, I pick up clue about her interest through various sources (like facebook, cold reading, her stories etc) and plan something she is likely to be interested in.

REMEMBER THINGS EXCITE YOU DO NOT ALWAYS EXCITE HER. And there are things she will only accept if she know your reason well enough, it is cool to show off that you sky diving but some timid girl will get freaked out if you bring her on something that extreme on the first date.

Cheers