Okay, so there's this girl at my college who I've met in group settings a few times. Last week I found her studying alone, so we talked for 15 minutes or so, and I got her number. It ended with me suggesting we hang out sometime and "Yes!" enthusiastically from her.

A few days later I text her, saying that we should go to the local fair together the following week. She answers with "Maybe! I don't usually know when I'll be free until a couple days beforehand, but it sounds like fun! "

I might have screwed up at this point by not texting her again for a few more days, because the next time I saw her alone (and studying), we talked for a while and I asked if she was still up for it. She said she had an exam the following Monday, so she wouldn't have time, but again "it sounds like fun!"

What should I do at this point? It's kinda hard to tell whether this is legitimate, since a lot of people study really hard here. I'm thinking I might not have built the comfort level enough, since we've only really talked twice, aside from lunch with a bunch of other people in the cafeteria once and a "Hey!" and a smile when we pass in the hall. She seems encouraging, but I have a tendency to over/underestimate attraction. I'm not sure . . . advice?

And is there any chance that teasing her with something like "are you seriously turning down something as iconic as the local fair for your History textbook?" will get her to change her mind? Or is even bringing it up again a needy thing to do?

Bro, Gonna be harsh.

College.

So you got a hunny making you work for the goods, tight phone game is how you play that instrument. When the weekend comes around text her "Weekend is finally here! I'll have to celebrate by being completely irresponsible tonight. You'll probably going to the library aren't you?" - now she has to prove to you she isn't a lame ass, so she'll either ask you where your partying, or attempt to explain she isn't lame, in the process letting you know what bar/party she'll be good and inebriated at for an easy lay.


Don't invite a college girl to a fair, are you fucking serious? That's a terrible idea. It's a college girl dude, she wants to go to a party, dance, drink and meet new people.

honestly, I would rather read a history text book than go to a fair. Is she a five year old?

i would grab her book and take it with you to a place where you will have your first "date." Girls like this forced arogance. If this does not go your way, it's because she sucks. What kind of girl sits around and works all the time? NOT ONE THAT YOU WANT!

don't believe me?

Think of all the ways she qualifies as a girl you might want to date.

Think of the odds of meeting another girl with those same very few qualifications. Then revert back to why she doesn't qualify-because she is borrrring.

Try it out. If it doesn't work, don't sweat it. I'm sure she's nice and all but she might not be all that special to you and odds are, she's not.

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