I was out with some friends a few nights ago, and I started talking with a girl who was also out with her friends. Our two groups connected pretty well so everyone was having a good time. I was talking with this one girl specifically the whole time and we exchanged phone numbers before I left. We talked about a lot of things...work/travel/families etc. so I felt pretty confident something would come from this. We even talked about hanging out soon.

The next day I text her, and we exchanged a few texts, again she seemed interested (judging by her responses). I then said something like "I gotta go now, but lets hang out next weekend, OK?". And I didn't get a respond back. Just like that, I felt like all my hard work went down the drain....

So, my question for the experts here is:

1) What did I do wrong?

2) What do I do from here?

Women are strange creatures at the best of times. It's quite conceivable that she thought, "Oh ok...I'll wait to hear from him then" whereas you were thinking, "Ok cool, she's gonna text back now!".

Best thing to do in my experience is not to let this stale out. Give her a call and talk to her as though it's the most normal thing in the world. Get that rapport going again. Under no circumstances mention the fact that she didn't get back to you.

I second this, Call her close to the date.. and just talk like everything is all a goer.. don't let on that if at all you noticed or cared that you weren't talking.. Just assume all is well..

The person who cares the least in the relationship has the most power.

Thanks for the advice guys...but when do I call? I mean, I can't hang out until the weekend anyways, so wouldn't it be too early to call right now?

And if I call and get a voicemail, do I leave a message or not...some people say never leave a message some say you should leave an interesting one. In this case which is best?

Hmm, well if it's for the weekend you cant be too far from the date anyway.. i'd say the thursday night?? it wont really matter too much.. but at least your giving her notice..

if you get voice mail.. I would for sure leave a msg.. Just be clear, concise and to the point.. then the ball is in her court.

When you call her be prepared for all eventualities i.e. You may go straight thru 2 voicemail (in which case be ready with what you'll say), she may be in the middle of something and can't talk, she may not have time on the w/end or you might just end up having a great conversation

I'm not saying be paranoid to everything that might go wrong but have something lined up for all cases so you've got the foundation to call her again without looking like a needy AFC.

Once you become more fluent with the game all this just comes naturally. I'm still in the process myself. Finally don't make yourself too nervous about it. It's all a learning experience mate..!

I was thinking that perhaps I did not establish as much trust as I thought I did, and that I probably should have talked a little bit more before setting up a date.

Oh well, too late at this point. I will let you guys know how it ends up.