Wassup PUAs, I need help recovering after screwing up the second date... (i am happily married bit I need advice to help my boy... I am writing on his behalf since I don't know exactly what advice to give him)
Here is the email he sent me:

Date went great friday night: hugs, kisses, "don't wanna go home" etc. Saturday night it all got screwed up. Here's what happened: We went to the club and had a few drinks. Everything was ok there but we were only there an hour before a friend of mine called and said they were having UFC party at his house. So we decided to go there. First off when we got there everyone was wasted it seemed. My friend asked her if she wanted any vicodin, which did not go over well at all with her. Then right afterwards someone asked her if she wanted to smoke a joint (mistake #2). Anywaysone of my friends wanted to go get something to eat so I figured it would be a good opportunity to get outta there. Well he passed out on the car. I finally took him home and drove the date back home. She gave me a cold peck on the cheek and said goodbye. I text her the next day apologizing for my friends etc. I didn't get a text back all day so I deleted her# so I wouldnt be tempted to text her again. Later on Sunday I screwed up and sent her a message on facebook saying sorry again. Its now wednesday and no response. What do I do next?


The advice I gave him was to give it till at least Friday before even considering anymore communication.. What do you guys say?? I also told him that he probably shouldn't have gone out with her 2 nights in a row since they just met each other... Give any and all rookie advice... He is unfamiliar with the PUA community and this is my attempt at getting him on board with "the game".. He is 33 with no kids and a good job he just needs a little calibration

f*ck her, kick her a$$ to the curb and forget it. If this is what your friends are into then hey, whatever...that's on them. She shouldn't get mad at YOU for their actions.

Now, if you were acting like a total a$$ and not helping the situation, that's one thing. But if you noticed she was uncomfortable and tried to remove her from the enviornment (which it sounds like you did), then there is nothing more you can do.

If she wants to act like a snot, you are better off without her. A laid back chick would have gotten over it and realized it wasn't your fault.

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Keep people off-balance and in the dark by never revealing the purpose behind your actions. - Robert Greene

Thanks for the advice sinful... but I'm really looking for advice on how to salvage this one...

What happened to the community here guys... Just a year ago there were some very active members with some solid advice... I will give the post a few more days but I expect more input other than to say "f*** her" ... I'm trying to help my boy out and convince him that there's a whole community out here to help him out when he needs advice... Is there another site everyone has moved to??
Thanks again... Happy Sarging

Salvage what? It was only their 2nd date, it's not like they were in a relationship.

This is what drives me nuts about most guys. A girl gets pissed off about something or acts cold for whatever reason and the guy 'automatically' thinks it's something he did wrong. What happens next? He spends the next few days chasing her skirt trying to make her feel better. When does it end? When SHE decides 'o.k., he has kissed my a$$ enough, I'll talk to him again'. Yeah right.

Your boy apologized for what happened, cool...no problem there. But for her to IGNORE his efforts and not even acknowledge his attempts to communicate with her? No sir, I don't think so. That is a lack of respect, she needs to go. If she would have at least responded to ONE of his attempts, then MAYBE it would be worth the effort.

You are right, he should at least wait until Friday before communicating with her. If she hasn't responded by then, he needs to send her a Dear John Letter calling her out on her immaturity via text or email since she won't respond.

I hope you find the information on this forum you are looking for.

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Keep people off-balance and in the dark by never revealing the purpose behind your actions. - Robert Greene

Agreed.... I think the word here is "Next"....

PS.... He told me that she did write him back yesterday saying I had a god time friday, blah, blah, blah, BUT ....j"ust friends", blah blah blah... He said he wrote her back already.. Oh well ...

NEXT

Happened to me before man. Went on two dates with a bellydancer. First date went great, 2nd date seemed to drag on forever. Thought I could redeem it, but nope. Just don't blame yourself, think that she wasn't good enough for you