| Hey guys, so I've been out of the dating game for quite a while and have definitely been going through a dry spell since my last relationship ended few months ago. I'm a 21 year old college student. Anyways, yesterday one of my close friends invited me to come out to a bar with him. So I met up with him and he brought a very cute girl with him, one of his friends. Initially the vibe between me and her was pretty cold and casual. She was talking to him most of the night. Some other of his friends joined us throughout the night. As we got more drinks though, she really started warming up to me. I escalated a little bit of kino, just playfully putting my arm around her, getting in pictures with her, etc. We danced a bit and she grinded against me. We were both relatively drunk, but still very much in control.
Anyways, we had a few beers and a few kamikazes. My friend was definitely trying to help me hook up with her and he told me he thought she was interested. So I sat next to her in a booth and we talked about stuff. She mentioned that she doesn't like assholes and wouldn't want to date one, and I told her I was definitely not an asshole. She also said she was a relationship-type girl not a hook-up type, which is cool with me. We had a few quick kisses and the others in our group definitely noticed the vibe. I did get the feeling I was trying a bit too hard and for a few minutes she seemed to pull back. But once my friend told me to ease back a bit, things went smoothly. We were talking and holding hands for most of the night.
Our group was walking home, and I invited them all to my place to hang. We all talked for a while, and one of the guys in our group knew I was trying to spend some alone time with her so he was able to convince the others to leave. She and I were alone for a while, and we started kissing on my bed. She didn't want to go the whole way, because she said she doesn't do that on the first meeting. She had to go home because she had a meeting this morning. But she gave me her number and said we should meet for lunch this week. I helped her get a cab home.
So now, I have several issues/questions I'd love some help with. In terms of scheduling lunch, we already figured out a time, but not a place. So is it better for me to call her or just text her to set something up since it's not really a date date? Also, if we do go to lunch, am I expected to pay for both of us? What are some other ways I can ensure that our conversations go as smoothly sober and during the day as they did tipsy and late at night? Is there some way to break any possible awkward tension from a drunken hookup? How do I maintain the attraction going forward and hopefully transition this into something more long term? I know it might be a bit weird for me, because last night the bar was crowded and our friends were all around us, so it wasn't like we could have real serious convo, but at lunch by ourselves, I'll definitely need to be more interesting and hold her attention without out looking needy. What are some tips that work for you guys on 2nd dates? Any help would be greatly appreciated.
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