| While reading The Game by Neil Strauss and later The Mystery Method by Mystery I came across several instances where the use of physical anchors has come into conversation. After thinking about this some more on my own and through some experimentation in the field I have come to an elementary understanding of their use and appeal, although I certainly welcome and criticisms or insights anyone might have on the subject.
In the books, Mystery promotes the idea of peacocking, or dressing extravagantly to attract attention. This results in the accumulation of certain articles which I will refer to as "tokens" since the precise terminology elludes me. In any case, there are several instances where these tokens are turned into "anchors" by giving them to a girl to hold onto until you return. Mystery speaks of this in an entirely utilitarian sense, which is to say you let a girl wear your scarf so you can retrieve it later, or a jacket, or neclace, whatever. The purpose is to grant the pua a viable point of reentry into the set.
I've recently been thinking about this, and I realize that we don't take it far enough. Now, I'm drawing from my own experience here but I feel it holds some legitimacy. For instance, I recently slept with a girl who told me the next day that "her bed smelled like me". That is to say my SCENT became a physical anchor which reminded her of me. Similarly at parties and such I would often lend my jacket to a girl if she was cold, or a shirt, or whatever, to the same result. I would recieved comments about how whatever it was made them feel "close" to me, or "connected" to me in some respect. These experiences have reinforced my belief that these tokens may be used as a form of indirect kino-escalation, or in a related sense, as a form of the so-called boyfriending technique, which is the use of certain intimate behaviors that are normally reserved for those in a relationship to build comfort.
Now I don't peacock perhaps as much as I should, but I do wear clothes with stories attatched to them, particularly hats. There's the hat I bought in Hong Kong, the hat I bought in Berlin, the hat that's signed by a playmate(DHV), then there's the jacket I bought in Switzerland etc. The point being the best tokens are the ones you have some kind of history with. Back to the topic at hand, girls love to "steal" my hats and wear them, a behavior I used to be annoyed by but later realized was a good thing. In any case, I've expanded mysterys method of local anchors a step further, using them as long-term anchors, or, allowing girls to take my shit home with them. Now this practice contains an element of risk, that is, you might not get it back. The plus side is that she will take that token as a bookmark for your presence.
I've taken to treating my tokens like my pets, checking up on them, making sure they're being taken care of, etc. Let me give you an example.
Me: How's my hat, did you put him to bed at a decent hour? You should also know that he needs his brim massaged at least once every four hours.
HB: Well I made sure to give him plenty of attention...but he hasn't been going to bed before midnight.
Me: Takes after me I suppose. Don't let him get away with any sweet talk, he can get to be a bit of a flirt around the ladies. His head is necessarily a little bigger than mine, and he makes full use of it.
HB:Haha I should have known....he made me sleep with him Thursday night. Me and Sara were watching tv and next thing you know we were asleep
Me: See I told you he's trouble. Let me know if he gets up to any more mischief
etc.
Note: any attempt to anthropomorphize your clothing is a major plus because it allows you to talk about yourself without talking about yourself.
Okay, that's all I got. Let me know any thoughts or questions you guys have on the subject.
-Classic*
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