hey all

this is my first post so bear with me. i just got into the game a few days ago with a reasonable amount of success. however there is one specific girl i want to discuss. she is currently in my home city on a holiday from her uni overseas, visiting friends/family etc. anyway i met her on a night out with a group of about 20 friends and she immediately caught my attention because she goes to a uni i would love to go to. because of this i guess i was pretty enthusiastic and AFC-ish, but regardless it seemed to work and my friend (a natural) told me she was into me. in retrospect i should have k-closed in that club then and there. however when i foolishly held out my hands for her to dance with me she ignored them, so my confidence in her being attracted to me and my confidence in general dropped. so i didnt close.

however, we then went to another club and on the way i established a degree of comfort with some kino. another friend then almost cockblocked me, but i still wasnt convinced she was attracted to me, i was looking for IODs rather than IOIs. when i left the d-floor she followed me to where i was standing with a friend and we sat down (just the 2 of us, the friend left). at this point my lack of experience almost wrecked the night. i started asking so many AFC questions like "do you drive?" and "so, tell me the three most interesting things about yourself?" at this point i could tell she was uncomfortable although despite my lack of skills i did manage to seem confident and comfortable throughout. she then suggested going back onto the d-floor. i agreed and on the d-floor she txted her mum to pick her up. i was going to lose my chance. so i slowly danced over her way and whispered in her ear "so, am i going to get a goodnight kiss?" to my surprise she immediately started making out with me. the problem was that she then had to leave after 10 minutes. i kissed her on the lips goodbye and asked for her number, but she is only using her mums phone while here so she said use facebook. i didnt fb her anything for the next 4 days because i didnt want to seem like an AFC.

also we were going to see each other at a friends pre-drinks anyway. i was nervous because the day after making out with her i had made out with 2 of her best friends. i didnt know if she knew or cared. at the pres i saw her briefly, she had to leave to a family gathering almost as soon as i arrived, but she said hi to me and we exchanged "happy new year" and she said shed meet me at the club we were going to, i said i would but not very convincingly (frankly i was surprised it was still on). i waited at the club til 10.30 (its only open til midnight on sunday) and then left as i was feeling very ill (not from drunkenness) and would not have felt like kissing her anyway. im not sure if she thinks i left because of her, or what.

so my problem is that i want to hook up with her/fuck her before she leaves in 2 weeks and i only have her fb. should i arrange a party or a date to get her over here? is she still interested considering she lives on the other side of the world and a relationship will not come out of this? more importantly what should i say to her on her wall/ in a message? or alternatively should i just forget about her (i would not like to do this) or LJBF her?

thanks for bearing with me

Personal opinion - your in Uni, have limited time, and she seems like a party girl. This can give you a little bit of an advantage, if you can get any attraction going while not drinking then, you should be good with trying to set up maybe a movie night - spur of the moment type thing. fb is good for its chat feature in the way that you can make a planned invite look spontaneous. Yes, its AFC, to message her with "hey whats up" but if you quickly move this from lame opener to "yea, I'm planning on having a quiet night watching some movies, you should come keep me company" then you have a chance. Mind you I mean movies at your place, not in theaters. It is possible that she will have other things going, if so just say "I guess you'll have to take a rain check then", dont ask her for a rain check tho as it will show that was ur initial intentions.

Remember that time is working against you, so whatever you decide to do, do it quickly. As it gets closer to her going back she'll have less time for hooking up as she can do that anywhere, but her home friends she only has limited time with.

My 2 cents...
~GQute