The two stories below happen to me more often than not. These are the only two I got numbers from during the past month so maybe I just have not talked to enough girls and have not gotten enough numbers for one of them to work out. Is this normal for girls to act this way?

1) I met a girl at a brewery. She opened me asking what beer I chose. I then asked her if her beer was good and which she chose. She told me it was good and offered me to taste her beer. Next thing we are ordering more beers and sharing our glasses tasting each others beers. We hit it off. Told stories about high school and talk about each others interests and passions. I told her I have to get going and asked for her number. She gave me her number and a hug. I suggested we meet up another time and she offered immediately that we should meet back here on Tuesday after work in a few days from now. She also mentioned it was convenient for her since she lives a few blocks from the place. She never showed up to the date. She never returned my texts or calls. I waited an hour and then left.

2) Met a girl at a bar. We talked for a bit and I asked her if she liked going horse back riding. She said she never has done that but would love to but her boyfriend moved out of town a couple of months ago and they don't see each other any longer, she has nobody to go with. We talked a bit more and she asked me if I would take her horse back riding some day soon. I told her I would. I asked for her number and she not only gave me her number but on a piece of paper wrote down her work schedule. She explained her crazy work schedule as a bartender at a topless strip club and told me she used to be a dancer there. That explains why she was so hot. I told her that I will text her the next day so we can make plans to get some drinks and talk about some locations to go horse back riding in the area. Before parting she told me that I am I very good looking guy and she is glad I talked with her and gave me a hug and waved to me as I left when we parted ways she gave me a huge smile. The next day I texted her and she never texted back. Now two days later I texted her one last time and she still does not text me back. I don't know what to do or why this happened. She seemed very into me and touched me a lot as I did her. Also, she shared a lot of personal things with me including where she lived, her past, her friends and so on and I never even asked about that stuff.

What is going on here? Are girls normally like this? I feel like its a lot of work just to get her number only to have her either not show up for the first date or not return my texts or calls. What the fuck? I am feeling so depressed now.

The kicker is that today I was walking down the street feeling super depressed and a very cute blonde made strong eye contact with me and held it as she slowly walked past me. Right when she was close she gave me a huge smile and kept looking into my eyes with a puppy dog look and huge smile while continuing constant eye contact. I was so depressed about the two things above that has happened during the past few days that I did not smile back or say anything. I am not feeling any mojo and thinking back I wish I had said something to her. Now I am even more depressed I lost out on that opportunity. I am not normally feeling down but this stuff can do that.

I will mention that I met these girls in San Francisco which is where I work 5 days a week and they know that. They also asked me where I lived and I told them that I commute 30 miles to work. Both girls I mentioned above work and live in San Francisco. Could it be that they don't want to date a guy that lives 30 miles away which is about a 45 minute drive with traffic each way? If so, why would they give out their number and make plans with me? If not, then what is going on here?

PS - I have listened to a lot of PUA programs that I paid for including Bobby Rio "Making Small Talk Sexy" and "Magnetic Messaging" both which I use to talk with and also for texting a girl after getting her number. I also have programs from other PUA's that I paid for and have read the book by Niel Strauss "The Game". I also have audio versions of everything mentioned here so I can listen to it during my commute to work and I have listed to this stuff many times.

Think of meeting girls like this:

You're in a war zone, most bullets are going to miss it's targets. Every now and then you will score a hit/casualty.

I could of thought of a more positive analogy but hopefully you get my point. You will get rejected MAJORITY of the time. Especially at the start stages of pick up anyway. You have to persevere and fight through the dip. The more harder you work your skill and mindset, the more accurate you will be and less bullets you need to use to score a hit.

- Read my sig link to give you an idea of the pains you should expect to get good at this.

It is tough, It is also unpredictable. I have had the deepest connections with girls and they will still flake and had brief interactions that ended in amazing relationships. You have to accept it for what it is. Girls have a lot of options.

There is a lot of competition. It's your job to work on your attractive qualities (Not so much text game programs from faceless internet guru's) so that you're way above the average which will give you access to the above average women. You will then have to find the sexually available girls and then see if you're compatible.

Be a lion. Not a field mouse. It is very rewarding. Be the elite,

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From my exp and things I've read, this is 100% normal. The best players have a conversion rate of around 10%. Meaning for every 100 girls you interact with initially, only 10 will go anywhere "meaningful."

I recently had 20 girls #'s in my phone I was texting or trying to arrange dates with. After the first few interactions and some actually confirming date times and locations, I've met only or am still talking to 5 of those 20. I'm frequently told I'm handsome, I'm above avg height, I work out and have very good muscular shape, and I have money. All these women know this. So even with that sweet deal on the table, it's still not a slam dunk.

They just don't operate the same way we do. We will be infatuated with a girl bc of how she looks but they become infatuated bc of the way we make them feel. It makes sense; when we first meet a new person, we are all full of energy and excited, but as that fades, other things happen and it changes. I have noticed often that women will give me very brief windows to be with them or not, and if I fuck up, then that chance is gone forever.

A close friend of mine said something to me that is utter truth; that is... females choose the males. Why? Because if males chose females, it'd be utter insanity... we'd all have fucked 5000 girls by now, and there would be all sorts of disease, children without 2 parents (rampant in some parts), and many other problems... the hottest women would literally probably just be stuck in one place just getting fucked by every dick that passed.

1. This girl said she lives very close to that bar. Ask her what her fucking apartment or whatever shit shack she lives in looks like and go fuck her in it. She was obviously inhibited and wanted more but you didn't show any balls(figuratively and literally). It's okay though, lesson learned.

2. For me personally, if any girl starts talking about a boyfriend or says she has one, im out of there faster than turbo. (SNAILED IT) But seriously, you were standing there listening to her talk about her and her boyfriend? I feel that the rule for girls who talk about boyfriends, should be make out or get out.

Sounds like you just ran into some bad luck with the first one, maybe some prior planning would have prevented you from being alone at the brewery. How long before you went there did you message her to let her know? There could have been a window where she would have canceled or told you not to go (forget it if you already did that). Sometimes we need to put out that one last text, I will see you at 5:30 at the brewery today, looking forward to it....
Then if she doesn't respond to confirm, don't bother going in the future.

For girl number two, it sounds like she was running game on you. If she works in hospitality, she knows how to keep men interested. She might really want to go riding, but if she doesn't commit to a date and pulls the boyfriend card, you might have to friendzone her for a bit. I wouldn't invest in someone not investing back in you.
Good luck!