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because she was turned on but after a few moments of silence said "not tonight". I took her word for word and stopped pushing right there.
That's your problem. You gave up too easily.
Next time, tell her 'of course, let's just hang out' and just persist. more often than not, girls will always give token resistance - It is your job to lead/persist it to the bedroom .
Also, fingering girls on dance floors tend to lead to instant buyers remorse. You still managed to get a date out of her which means you have already screened her as 'down to fuck' and she was ready to bang you for sure.
Basically,
Fingering her then saying 'want to come back to a watch a movie with me?' = causes resistance
Not fingering her and keeping the tension ' 'want to come back to a watch a movie with me?' = hardly no resistance
Think about it