I kind of owned that date last night, so I don't have a question so much. It was just one of my weirdest dates and I felt I had to share it with my PUA bros. Maybe you can help me understand the psychological aspects of the whole thing.
So I met this girl over Tinder (19, pretty cute, not incredibly hot). I took her to my favorit cocktail place where I know the owner and after about 10 minutes I found out that she used to date an aquaintance of mine. Not only that, after months of silence he had just messaged her, 10 minutes prior to our meet up! Can you fucking believe that? He had NO way of knowing about our date. I haven't talked to him in months and she sure as hell didn't tell him. Just the weirdest fucking coincidence.

So I kinda figured the date was done at that point. No way to recover from that shit. But we were only half an hour in our date, and I didn't wanna be rude. So I took her to a christmas market, we talked, and she startet to get into it. I figured what the hell and started kinoing, light touching, arm on her hip and shit. But everytime I touched her she would get away a couple of inches. Even if i just touched her arm to show her something, she would inch away after a few seconds.

So the night went on, I was sure nothing was gonna happen, but she also didn't seem to want to go home. Don't get me wrong, she wasn't unconfortable or anything, but for the life of me I couldn't escalate physically. So I took her to my third date location, a closed off park, where I like to "break in" with girls. Same shit continues: She is fun and nice, but zero kino compliance.
Then I took her to my fucking 4th date location, an amusement park. And, you probably figured it out by now, same deal: She is really into the conversation but whenever I kino she inches away. Finally after like 4 hours I'm fed up. I can only think of one more thing that might work. I tell her (calmly and friendly of course) that I feel like she is still hung up on my friend. I tell her that I think she is pretty and I like her, but I also feel like I'm wasting my time, if she isn't ready for something new.
So we start heading back to the busstation. And then: Bang, suddenly she starts touching my arm, giving me long looks, stuff she hadn't done the whole fucking night. My brain goes "DO IT, NOW. ITS ON!". So I grab and pull her to me while walking, she doesnt inch away. I take her hand and finally I go in for the k-close. And from then on smooth sailing.
I didn't f-close but we both agreed that a relationship wasn't in the cards, but we want to keep seeing each other. So yeah, guys, If I don't fuck it up I'm heading for fuckbuddy town.

My little question to you guys: What the fuck happened there? I mean I knew instinctively what to do, but I can't figure out the psychological reasons for her change of heart.

Your ultimatum displayed yourself as a man of value who believes his time is valuable. Your brilliant move after this was walking to the bus station, a physical manifestation that only backed up the ultimatum. She knew it was time to make something happen or it was over with you for good.
Well played man. I also like your venue bouncing, to get a different scene for each of your escalation attempts.

Yeah, right. I think the key is, that I didn't get needy or cranky, like I think she owes me a make out or something. I was really reluctant to even use the ultimatum, cause it's kinda hard to pull it of in the right tone.
Well played man. I also like your venue bouncing, to get a different scene for each of your escalation attempts.[/quote]Thanks man. I have my main locations and am always looking for little fun things to do within proximity. I recently had a date go to shit, cause it took to long from one venue to the next.