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It's perhaps best to approach texting in a similar way as you would when talking over the phone or in person. The first few texts I send a girl, I go for a classic formula. I always make an effort to DHV (I'm in a band so I'm always "about to go to band practice"). I make my texts a little playful (think of a pet name for her if possible) and, if it's a first text, I make a comment about our encounter in the meeting place (she was interesting to talk to, for example).
However, as a general rule, I always call her. It shows confidence and a willingness to fully engage people who you are not familiar with.
Texting, for me, can be useful when I meet her on a Friday for example. I will leave it 2 days and contact her on the Sunday. By doing this, I'm acting within the "attraction/comfort moratorium" - I don't want to leave it too long. Otherwise, she will lose the feelings she had generated at the meeting place where I attracted her and forget about it (this is common factor mentioned before by many PUAs) . This is not an absolute rule however. In my experience, the "attraction/comfort moratorium" is more relevant when it comes to younger girls (around 20 or 21 max). Every girl is different though, but this has generally worked fine for me.
This is straight down the middle stuff, but I always think about this checklist of factors before I make the text:
1) First texts must create a unique impression and are vital for securing
a meet;
2) Always make it look like you're on the move;
3) As I said before, try and come up with a pet name for her. Think of
something about her which you could use (accent, clothing, etc). If you
can't think of something decent or appropriate, leave it out for now.
You can leave it until later. For example, if you call her up and she
fails to pick up, your "back-up" text can open a few doors. If she
doesn't pick up, I have a habit of text-negging her by calling her
a "mouse" because she's "so difficult to get hold of" (I picked this up
from somewhere, Lance Mason's stuff perhaps). If she replies and it is
positive, then I continue to call her this in continuing text messages (I
don't overkill it though). It speeds up the process of familiarity and
makes her comfortable
4) Lightly neg (similar to number three).
5) Mention something which will make you appear easy-going and not too
serious. Perhaps write that you got negged about something you wore
the other night and follow it up with a laugh (eg haha!). This makes
things playful and softens the mood.
6) Make statements and don't ask questions in the first couple of texts. I
find that asking questions early on gives her control (she can freeze
you out and convince herself that you are waiting by the phone for
answer)
6) Make the first text to her relatively short and include the basics (ie light
neg, statement, place to go, sign-off)
Standard stuff really, although fitting it all in one text message could be challenging.
Hey ty for this post but my question for you is which do you tend to do first? Text or Call, and how do you do the transition into the call without it being almost ackward to be verbally talking w/someone for the "first time" in a "long time" .