Okay, so I met this girl and initially, I was pretty sure that she was attracted to me physically- because she was acting nervous around me, she called me tall (which I'm not) and she was unusually friendly with me. (And this was while we were working together and I was the only guy in a room full of ladies.) When we were parting ways, I felt that she was basically waiting for me to say something, but I was too much of a pussy to ask for her number, so I just said goodbye and left.

When I finally ran into her again a week later, I made it very obvious that I was interested in her. I told her that this was the last time that I was going to be at that place of work. So when she was about to leave, she said: "so this is your last day, huh?". I said "yeah" and I was trying to work up the courage to tell her that she's cute, that I'm interested in her and ask for her contact information, but I'm a fucking pussy so I couldn't. Instead, I asked her if she wanted to "stay in touch" and I hadn't finished my sentence, when she said yes. She asked if I have Facebook, and I said no- to which she seemed rather surprised. I then asked her what her number was and I handed her my phone.

Honestly, from her facial expression- she seemed a little hesitant, but she did put her number in my phone. She didn't ask me for my number and she left right away. I felt like she felt guilty for giving me her number.

Anyway, the day wasn't over, and our 'boss' wanted her to do some work for her so she hung around and I ran into her again. She walked right pass me in the lobby, but she must not have seen me because she didn't stop or even looked at me. However, I knew she was going to the cafeteria, so ten minutes later I went to the cafeteria under the pretense of wanting to speak to my boss who was there. When she saw me there, I tried to look surprised, I walked up to her and I asked her what she was still doing here. She told me her boss wanted her to do some work and I then tried to make some convo. She asked me if she wanted to sit down at the table, and I did.

We had a little chat- and she was basically "Qualifying" herself to me. She told me stuff like how she went to a prestigious/expensive college, that she was smart, had a scholarship, wanted to be a lawyer, is interested in acting, is honest and then told me how she gets panic attacks when speaking publicly. She also briefly spoke about some of the other girls that worked there- and that she could tell that one of the girl's working there is an actor and not a good person. She told me shew knew this because she is also took acting classes, etc...

The conversation was all about her so far. I then, briefly left our table for a few minutes to go and speak to my boss who was also in the cafeteria getting food to eat. I spoke to him, I came back and told her that I basically got a job in a different division (different location) of the same company. (I'm currently an intern at this place.) Then, when she was about to leave, I told her to come with me. I went to my supervisor's office and got the papers that I had to, and then I came back out and asked her if she wanted to meet my supervisor. So I then pulled her inside and introduced her to my supervisor and the head of his department.

She is also an intern, so they basically said that they would recommend her for employment, etc.. and she seemed to appreciate what I did for her. We then left to go and meet our third "boss", since she was going to stay and I was leaving. She seemed more interested in me now, was acting nicer and was more comfortable/relaxed. When we parted, I told her I would give her a call sometime next week.

All this took place last week, on Wednesday. I texted her Sunday night and this is how our Text convo has progressed so far:




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When I referred to myself as a "stranger" and one or both of the last two replies seem to have offended her. How can I fix this?

Also, I still don't know if she actually likes me on a romantic level or not. What do you experts think?

Just for future reference as you have discovered in this interaction it's a good idea to not refer to yourself to the girl as a 'stranger.' I know this just was an effort at playful and slightly negging banter by you but by her replies she doesn't think of you as a stranger, therefore you're only fucking yourself over if you frame yourself in this way. Additionally you want to avoid telling future girls that you meeting her meant nothing. This isn't a playful push pull it's stating pure disinterest in her. I actually don't know if it's possible in any way to recover from this text convo, but time will tell.

You're not working in the same building as her anymore so the 'shitting where you eat' thing doesn't seem to apply here. You asked for advice, here is mine: Ask yourself, what is my desired outcome. From that wall of text, I don't see any leading or any goal other than to have a meandering text convo that goes nowhere. As the man it is your job to lead the interactions. Only one way to find out if she is interested and that is to invite her to join you some night for a drink. Go in with a friendly vibe over text or phone to try to recover, & get her out with you if possible.

@oceanx -
You're correct in thinking that it's going nowhere- and that's because I'm very much new to this. Also, this girl is introverted, possibly has Social Anxiety, and is most certainly prudish (does not talk of sex or use profanities, and I don't even think she liked my "you accused me of hitting on you" Text, though its probably because it comes off as a neg and as me not having any interest in her). So you can see why I'm being indirect with her.

Also, the "stranger" Text I sent her was to "Disqualify" myself, because I was pissed at her responding to my Texts after several (like 7, 8 ) hours, or the next day even. I thought that she was either testing to see if I was needy enough to bring it up or that she was genuinely not interested. Furthermore, I was going to use the same "we're strangers" angle, to basically tell her that "we're strangers now, but I want to get to know you better, so lets meet up."

Anyway, tomorrow afternoon, I'll try to do damage control. I'm thinking of asking her via Text if I've offended her, and then speak to her on the phone to set up a meetup. I'm open to suggestions if you have any...

Cool man if it's between blatantly kissing her ass or acting the way you did, I'd act the way you did 10x out of 10.

Bottom line is she's responding to you so either there's interest or she is maintaining the interaction for some work-related reason, one or the other.

The other bottom line is that you are out there swinging the bat, which is more than a lot of guys.

It didn't appear that you offended her at all in any way, but just didn't maintain the interest in her that you expressed to her when you saw her. I'd keep the tone of the interactions light and go for the meetup. Hope it all goes well.

LOL, dude, I got my answer. Guess what? She most definitely likes me!

It's funny, actually: she gave off all these signs that said that she wasn't interested. Like, when I thought about it logically, I felt that she wasn't interested. But on an emotional level, I was certain that she was.

Yesterday, I badly wanted to Text her and explain to her that I have a very dry, sarcastic sense of humor because she was acting like she got offended by me making that you accused me of hitting on you joke and also to tell her that I have trust issues to explain my 'strangers' comment. And I was so close to Texting her this- but every fiber in my body told me not to do it, to just give it time and that she was either playing hard to get or that this was some giant shit-test.

Besides, she was most probably expecting me to Text and chase after her, like all the other losers have probably done in the past and I didn't want to fall into that category.

Anyway, this is what she Texted me today:
Ohhh noo-oooo lol
well if I knkow you irl then you're not a strang-er to me lol
you not being a -hobo also -helps-

^I think I passed the shit-test.