I was out busking (i.e. playing acoustic guitar and singing in the street, for tips) when a pretty cute girl left her number in my gig bag. This was a few weeks back, and since then we've hung out a few times. She has always seemed nervous around me, which I assume is because she really likes me and is nervous to fuck things up (I used to be the same way around girls I really wanted).

Sadly, the way she acts around me makes it really hard to get to know her. She's so filtered and it's hard to get her to open up and just level with me. Over all, that's pretty unattractive.

But I have a feeling that, if I could actually get her to be more comfortable with me, and if I could actually get to know her a little bit, that she might actually be really cool.

Escalation has been hard because of how "tightened up" she usually is when we're together. I finally managed to get some physical action going a couple nights ago, and went from light kino, to kissing, to making out, to shirts off on her bed, but then got LMR when I tried to pull her panties off.

So my question here is really two-fold:

1) How can I help her feel less nervous around me? I want to get to know her, find out who she really is, and just have a REAL, and actually MEANINGFUL conversation together.

2) Should I just drop this girl? I'm starting to think that she's quite possibly the type to only sleep with someone she's feeling really close to/seeking a relationship with. Even though I like hanging out with her, and wouldn't mind being close and even 'taking care of her' a little, I still don't want a relationship. And the last thing I want to do is make her feel used and heartbroken if we end up sleeping together and she finds out that things weren't going in the direction she thought they were.

Help!

-j man

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