So this girl I know for quite a while had a boyfriend and when they broke up like a month later I asked her to go on a date with me.

We had some dates (which went great).

Yesterday when she came to my city (she lives like 60 miles away from me) we went on my motor and were driving to this romantic place where we had a great time.
In the evening we went to the cinema and afterwards to my place. (We planned everything and she knew she would stay at my place)
So when we were at my place we went to bed, started to kiss, I started to touch and got her but naked.
Just when i wanted to ask her if she wanted me to use a condom she was like: "Well im not sure if we should do this" and me, the genius i am understood that she wasnt sure if we should make love without a condom.
So I said ill get a condom and then she said to me that she wasn't sure that we should make love at all..
This kind of shocked me, but I didn't give up and tried the second time (also got her but naked and i was fingering her) then the third time i finnaly did it.. I got my penis inside of her.. but without a condom.. so after a few minutes i asked her if she wants me to put a condom, just when i asked her she jumped off of me and was totaly shocked.. She wasn't angry or anything but just shocked that we made love without a condom.

I was kind of mad but i didn't show it to her and said it's OK.

Let's just say we had sex but i didn't cum.
She even asked me if to jerk me off but I told her I can only enjoy when you're enjoying too.
What do you guys think about this? Is she trying to be hard to get or..?

I'm new on this forum so please forgive me if i'm breaking any rules.

obviously I dont know without being there or knowing all the details but if she's telling you no 3 times its kind of clear she isn't comfortable. It sucks, but you have to just deal with it - she's uncomfortabhle and you probably shouldn't have continued or penetrated her

far better since she was letting you touch her would be to get her really turned on from stroking her body, fingering etc. basically find the level where she's comfortable and enjoying it - if a girl is fingered or licked a lot AND she wants it then she will naturally -want- you inside her. biologically. she sounds not turned on enough and uncomfortable

basically some girls have hang-ups about sex and its hard to get past those. or if she isn't sure about you

If you had been very flirty earlier in the day and kissing and making out and pushing against and basically getting her comfortable with you physically without the stress of sex her mind might have been in a different position and it might have been different but it sounds like she wasn't comfortable and you should probably have backed off having sex with her. she might have even been afraid and wanted you to stop and was trying.

basically ... that's not what a really turned on girl acts like

I don't think you need an answer to this.

Asking if you should wear a condom after you're inside her is a big mistake. You're supposed to be wearing a condom for your protection, not hers. When you ask if she wants to do it with a condom on you're basically telling her you're used to it without a condom which means you've a higher chance of having an STI.

You dealt with LMR... I don't know how you dealt with it specifically but you kept coming back to it and escalating which is what you're supposed to do with LMR anyway without forcing yourself on her.

Yea, you're probably right.
Next time i just have to put more effort in making her horny.
We we're all day on each other, kissing etc.

I will see her on thursday and i'll put much more effort than now.

Thank you for your respond guys!

When she resisted you should of played on that, just said, I know we're not having sex, keep on touching her and getting her horny, but not actually penetrating, with your fingers/dick. Just really tease her to the point that she actually pulls you on top and tells you to fuck her.

By the sounds of it you rushed it, you shouldn't of fingered her before she was more than willing to have sex with you, fingering her should be a reward for giving you something you want (sex).

Alright, thank you!