Ok so I'm just coming off a 9 yr marriage so I haven't had much experience closing on a girl in a long while. So here is my situation... I been talking to this girl at work mostly fluff talk since we only get to see each other a few minutes at a time. She seems to dig me because a few weeks ago I offered to smoke her out and was more then willing to meet up. she invited me back to her place and hung out in her room smoking and bullshitting. I kept my distance and the convo was interesting many topics including sex. My first move was when I offered to give her a shot gun (mouth to mouth toke) her reply was naw I'm good. So I backed off and convo continued. A bit later she told me she needed to go to bed but needed to shower so I told her to go shower, she did. I thought I was in but when she got out that's when I notice the change. The mood was shot so i just dipped and told her it was fun. After that our fluff talk at work was toned down a bit but I still got a good vibe. Today I told her i was gonna meet up some friends in Vegas for a bachelor party and I was riding solo so was looking for a down ass girl to go party... It didn't take much convincing before she said yeah ill go. So now I'm like what the fuk do I do? I'm gonna have her to myself in Vegas and I don't want to blow it again. So how can I close her, what's can I say or how do I know when to make a move and when I do what should it be? When I was married it all came natural, sex was no big deal but now I feel like anything I say or do is all awkward? What do u guys think???

First off - she doesn't sound all that into you to me. Though she agreed to go to Vegas with you (?)... that's a win I suppose. You paying?

If she's not viewing this as a free trip and you're actually getting solid IOIs and won't make a fool of yourself or endanger your career (you do have to work with this girl...........) then escalate slowly.

Get her used to touching with kino.

Get sexual with the way you speak and get slightly suggestive. If she's responding and reciprocating, escalate further and try to close.

Good luck

Thanks for the advice bro! but to answer ur question Hell No Im not paying lol I made it pretty clear that she needed to bring enough to eat, drink and gamble. and I told her she would need to pitch in for gas too lol Only thing she ain't paying for is the room but neither am I, my buddy comped us the room. I spend the last 9 years paying for shit so im not gonna start that up again lol. This girl is a HB9 at least so at first I thought the same she cant be into me but shes always smiling, licking her lips and playing with her hair when we talking, kino not so much but thats cuz we are always at work and I have a cubicle wall between us. And by what she tells me she gets hit on all the time and guys advance all the time so shes used to it the problem is im not! I dont know
when to make a move, i dont know what to look for to know its the right time if you know what I mean? I dont want to make it all awkward and blow it! We are dipping out in about 2 hrs so I'll let you guy know how it goes...

as of now, your friend zoned. you have to be sexual off the bat. It wont be easy coming off a 9 year marraige. Escalate. if she rejects you again, go for other woman infront of her and YOU put HER in the friendzone. try to build up her attraction again, if she doesnt genuinely like you the make the best out of it and use her to your advantage as a friend (social proof) act fast, life goes by too quick!

Hey guys so I'm just getting back from Vegas so i wanted to update u on what happened.... The girl that I was gonna take flacked out no big surprise by what u guys been telling me. But that didnt faze me at all cuz I was up there approaching girl after girl. I was surprised at the amount of good responses i was getting. Long story short got plenty of numbers, by the end of the first night I was hugged up with this one HB 8 making out would of had her come up to my room but her friends these water buffalos lol dragged her away... She was blowing up my phone the next day. Didnt hit her back up tho cuz after that all i wanted to do was duplicate the experience with a different girl lol... You guys should of seen the look on my bois faces lol stunned that I was pulling these hot ass girls to dance and not spending 1 dollar on them. And these guys r no strangers to pulling girls and by the end of the trip they where asking me what do I say to these girls to keep them laughing and hanging out... Lol I love it! Now I just need to start working on my fuk close lol

see there you go! job well done!