Hey whats up Fellas, I met HB9 on the iphone app tinder. We messaged back and forth for a week keeping things really light and fun with lots of cocky funny and attraction building. After getting tired of only messaging her I told her we should exchange numbers and we started texting. We exchanged texts for over a week and it was a lot of the same as with messaging attraction building and some push pull. We were joking and bet a drink on it the week before, and she left twon that weekend. When she came back I told her I was free friday and mentioned our bet playfully. she agreed to meet up but When we started to talk about logistics for the date she seemed a little hesitant, and I purposely joked around and kept it light not pressing the issue. We eventually kept talking and settled on a time and place for our date Thursday. Thursday rolls around and she says she messed something up at work and has to work a little later and wanted to know if we could meet up a little later, no worries. I get a call about 30 minutes prior to our new meet up time and she was saying that she was just leaving work and was really sorry wanting to know if i can reschedule for saturday or sunday. I told her I would need to get back to her because I had a busy schedule during the weekend and was meeting with clients. Friday night I texted her saying that I was able to see clients earlier in the day saturday which frees me up later in the evening for drinks or dinner. She replies with " I can do tomorrow! haha Perfect" Saturday at noon I text her saying lets meet at the place we had planned Thursday I heard its a nice classy joint. No Reply all day, 7:15pm rolls around and nothing so I called and got no answer. Completely flaked on me for the second time this weekend. The weird thing is our conversations via text were awesome and we joked about our first date and had a lot of fun, it never felt like an interview asking the same stale questions people are always asked. Where Did I go wrong ? How should I proceed fellas ? Lost cause ? any and all help appreciated.

TBH that's really weird, you both agreed on a date, she sounds really keen, and then she disappeared.

You should probably try to make contact with her again to see if she wasn't in a car accident or something. From her response then, you should be able to garner if she's just hesitant to meet up. If she is, maybe she needs more work. Decide for yourself if you think she's worth it. I do wonder if she's super shy and maybe posted fake pictures and is a bit wierd and is now scared you'll see her for real even though she's talking as if it's all good. But that's just one possibility.

Something odd is up. Anything from a disaster to her just being really odd.

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Why'd you ask her out so quickly after she flaked the first time. She's going to start feeling she can flake on you anytime. You'll become the fall back guy. It happens subtly be careful.

If I were you I would next her. Don't tolerate that many flakes in a row.

Move on to your other options or get some other options.

Ironically this will drive her crazy. Women want men with options.

So don't contact her. I'm sure she will contact you first as she had in the past.

If not, you have other options and and are better off not wasting time trying to set up another potentially flakey date. Balls in her court, let her chase.

i cant fuck with flakes man. drop that bish. As a pua u gotta have options. SO dont sweat this one girl. Plus tinder is kinda like an app for soft closing. and typically soft closing leads to flaking. Just had a female friend get on tinder and this dude flaked on her so it goes both ways. Go out and meet some chicks at bars and clubs (in-field) it'll get you straight. Or run some day game at a local grocery store. plenty of heavenly blessed beauties there.

Think this might have been the reason she flaked a second time round - you saying "I heard its a nice classy joint". The word classy might have scared her off. As MarylandsFinest said, Tinder's for soft closing. Despite all the fluffing and attraction building via texts for a couple of weeks, you can't forget the fact that you haven't actually met this girl face to face yet.

In order to not scare her off (or anyone else you find on Tinder etc) make sure to keep it more casual, like it's no biggy meeting up. Basically less like a date. Say "lets grab a drink", saying just a drink rather than drinks pleural can be the difference between a first date and a flaked date.

After you saying "classy joint" this girl probably thought sheeeit I'm gonna have to dress up formal, high heels, dress etc.

It might be recoverable, so instead play it more casual like 'I'm out with my mates at X location tonight, you should come down with your friends, it's gonna be fun". She might feel more comfortable meeting you like this. Less intimating.

I had a serial flaker a couple months back. Don't know why I persisted! She flaked several times. So I left it a few weeks with no contact. Then sent a random text out the blue on the lines of, "hey stranger, I'm in x location tonight' basically example above about being with my friends etc. And it worked I finally saw her haha

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Agreed ^^^ if she does text you (which she probably will if you ignore her) then reply: "Sorry ...... but I've had to dump you, hope it all works out for you x" Make sure to include her name in the text.

Hb9's and 10's never get dumped (or very, very rarely) and it drives them crazy as you upset their perceived value reality.

Cuts through the BS and makes them think.

It's tinder bro, she probably met another guy on there.

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