Hi invited this girl out to "have some fun" with a very simple text (and breaking many PUA texting rules ).

ME: yesterday evening
Hi xxx, I hope you're doing great!
Listen, next week I will have some free time, let's go to have some fun in the city!

HER: yesterday evening
Why not .. let me know what is your plan ))


What I was going to reply:
Cool!
Here are the two different options:

Middle of the week (Tuesday or Wednesday)
We can meet at my place (really close to xxx) for food and Chianti wine at around 9 and then move to Matrix right in front (link of the place). Then from there decide whether or not to move to some other clubs, but it’s a nice lively place so it should also be OK to also stay there .

Weekend
We could go to Sinatra (link of the place) for a couple of cocktails and then eventually move to Metro in xxx.


What do you guys think about the above reply? Too accommodating with the "could"?

I've met this girl around 2 months ago, and while at the beginning I thought she might have been a little bit receptive, today I can't be sure (except of the fact she said yes to my invite).

I'll let someone more experienced suggest which plan sounds better, but I would definitely say you should be a little more vague so as to evoke surprise and excitement in her.

well its ok but I think that the way you put it implies that your thinking too much about the date...your thinking about the plan ....not necessary you are thinking too much..but the way you put implies it....
it would be better if you say meet me at x time x day and were going to have fun...

This is how it developed:

ME
Here's the fun-plan for the weekend
First Alibi cocktail bar for a couple of cocktails and then move to a club. Simple and effective .

SHE
It might be a little problem .. I already do not drink ... maybe a non-alcoholic cocktail

ME
That's not a problem at all! Actually that's healthy!
So we can actually do this: we change Alibi and cocktail for my place and (hopefully good ) food and then from there we go somewhere.

HER
I would like to go at some music club ... I have not seen my friend Cristina some time ...



It steered a little bit negatively. The "my place option" is snubbed and now it seems she's willing to also take a friend along. Keep re-proposing my place saying "we will go to a club later"? It seems too pushy. And at the same time yielding to her changing requests is definitely submissive... :S.
I could find a middle alternative saying I'd bring a friend along, her friend is not so bad...

your on your way to lose the girl...healthy cocktail???she popped her friend cause she felt your turning into a submissive guy so she can leave you if it turned true and go to her friend...and if you mentione your friend,she will not come at all..why are you organising the way you send your message and include too much informations..be firm in your message...here is a message I send to a girl in my class: rasha Im cafe block b with my friends ..dont bring girls for me..

What about this reply now "Let's meet at 10 at xxx, later to a club".

I'm no expert at this but I would bring my friend along too and wouldn't even tell her about it. That way if she leaves you for her friend, you will have someone to chill with and won't even feel like she stood you up/dumped you.

Here I am again guys, thanks for feed.

ME
Meet me at 10 in front of New Yorker, we can meet Cristina later at the club, I already have too many girls chasing me, no need to bring more

HER
I have a photo shoot that day ... so .. then I will go to Sky in Republic Square



Would you even bother to reply at this point?

You ruined this one.

I don't know what the people on here suggest, but from my experience... no decent girl is going to agree to go to your place for a first date. You came off as a creepy rapist, and the fact that she wanted to bring her friend after talking more with you suggests you did something wrong.

The more a woman talks to you the more comfortable she should be.. not the opposite.



When I ask someone out, I set up a date and give them options that work with my schedule and tell them to pick what's most convienent for them. If they ask the plan, I tell them we'll think of something. No use going into huge detail.


I don't think letting a girl decide is being too submissive, you want her to have a good time.. and you're not going to get anywhere if she's bored. That being said, you still have to look like you're in charge.

you kidding me?

who says this to a girl???

next time around be the fucking man bro. YOU decide YOU arrange YOU provide.

you acted too needy in my point of view

next time around keep it simple

and arrange things in a "WE" scenario and not a "Me" scenario

hope you learned your lesson

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Yeah, I agree I ruined this one.
The change of plan and the invite to my place was the moment.

To my partial excuse, it didn't come out of nowhere, but it was a gamble reconnecting to something we had talked about: the first time I had met her we also talked about food and I was telling her she should have cooked for me and I would have cooked for her (here the invite to eat to my place).
I had also mentioned about a female SPAM, which would make the scenario of being in my place for the first time a little less scary (plus she's got me on facebook, which eases off some fears when you someone's got a social life).
Failed gamble though.

The "I have too many girls chasing me" was the cocky funny reply. I wasn't being unnatural with that, I do usually make those kind of jokes.


Anyway, she still said the exact place where she was going, so maybe not everything is still not lost and she doesn't really think I'm a rapist. Too bad for her, when she'll get to know the real me it'll be too late for her... Ehehehe just kidding obviously

Aaand she sweetens the pill after a day:

SHE
so if you want ... I'll be there


How would you reply from here?

I was thinking I could keep it dry/normal and say:
ME
"let's try for next week".

Or I could use it as an excuse to spice things up from now with something like:
ME
"only if you send me the sexiest pics of that photo shoot"

Go with the second one.

Then of course see what time she'll be there and then just show up and have a good time with her

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at first you were ruining it..but now your doing good...the message you send to meet u where you decided is the good part.and the statement to bring girls is the good part also..when you said I already have plenty of girls chasing me,you looked a little bit bragging..what happened is that she felt you are being decisive and liked it..and whenever a girl finds something attractive in guy,guess what she do??if you guessed a shit test then your right..so she felt attracted by the fact that you decided so she tried to test if your frame is strong enough and she tried to change the plan and appear disinterested to see if you become wussy and do what she wants,in which case you lose her forever..so the next day she agreed to what you said...and now shes attracted to you...so you must stay on your frame ..

msg:No(you decided) I want you to bring your friend so I introduce my friend to her(you are social)..hope she's cool(qualification).. and I changed the plan(you decided).I want to go to x place (cofee)where we can get to know each others a little bit more for a small amount of time(false time constraint) and then If we had fun we can meet another time..

now the fun part is that you can bring them home in that same day.and the most important thing is that you must not lose your alpha frame because your afraid to lose her
last note:bring a cool friend plz

You did awesome bro. Way too many guys overcomplicate the texting process. Whenever you text a woman, your number one goal should be to set up a date. That's it. Texting's only purpose should be used to set up dates. Everything else is just mental masturbation.

Have a look at this article on texting that I recently wrote http://www.womenattracted.com/what-to-t ... -get-dates

This article tells you all of the basics and everything you need to know about texting women.

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