So I've been browsing around and saw other guys here have the same problem as me, the girl went cold on them after first date, how do we deal with that?

Everything seem to be going well, I met this girl on a dating site, went on a date with her on Saturday. We had a lot of fun (went ice skating, walking around the beach) getting to know each other then of course kiss close for the night. It was a cute date. (I was wrapping my arms around her while we wait for the bus to come). However I think I made a huge mistake that I forgot to arrange for another meeting.

So at the same night after the date, I told her to text me when she gets home, which she did and since she told me she's not big on texting and I was still on the train so I told her that I'll give her a call when I get home, no response from her but I called her anyway trying to set up another date. She didn't pick up the phone and I just leave it like that.

It's been two days now since the date, I haven't hear anything from her and I can still see her go online on that dating site. I was thinking maybe text her something funny tomorrow night and then call her after that to see if she's interesting to go out again. Is there anything I should be aware of on the phone conversation? It would be really nice if someone can give me any advice to handle my situation. Thank you so much, cheers.

Gawd, dating site girls. They are the worst. The reality is that 80% of the women on those sites are looking for only the guys in the top 20%. And the really hot girls on there are mostly looking for guys that don't even exist (smart, rich, good looking, etc).

It's pretty sad that you guys had a good time together, and then she blows you off so she can go back and sit online and look at other guys profiles trying to find one with hotter pics or whose income bracket is higher than yours.

All you can do is shoot her another message/text and ask if she wants to go out again. If you get no reply or some BS, then just move on and forget about her. Otherwise you'll waste time blaming yourself and stressing over something you have no control over.

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Thanks for the advice puaninja, I'll try that tonight.

puaninja summed it up pretty good. However, you spent an awful lot of time on the first date. You must've really liked each other. So chances are she could be playing hard to get.

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Yeah dating website girls are the worst (although ive heard the same complaints from female friends about online dating guys).

The only girls you should consider on there are the ones that seem serious about looking for love/relationships ( all the party girls , the ones who talk only about themselves, or have a ton of pictures of themselves but write almost nothing, are girls to avoid). But be careful of the girls who say "all I want is a nice, funny, smart guy is that so hard to find?". Those girls are kidding themselves and they are lying. They clearly have ran into guys who are nice, funny, and smart....they just neglect to mention they need to be model hot, have a lot of disposable income, etc.

...Its funny how many profile views and emails i got once I revealed on my profile "personal basics" occupation section that I am a physician. I changed nothing else and all of a sudden I got flooded with attention. The wrong kind of attention....i purposely left out what I do because I wanted to avoid girls like that.