Hey Guys

I have an issue I'm trying to work though. I blow it with women. I can be having a nice interaction, but NEVER take it anywhere be it dates, sex, relationships...whatever. If it's going well, I will shut it down!

I think I blew what could have been an easy ONS. Maybe not. I was at a dance (yes I can dance) I am acquaintances with this girl who I see every now and again. We talk, we dance. I dont remember how it came up or what was said during the convo specifically, but I remember many key phrases.

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She mentioned that her husband was out of town and that he had the kids.
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she mentioned hate sleeping alone.
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she mentioned she hates hotels because there is something about your own bed and nice sheets (this is not inherently sexual, but I thought I'd throw it in there).
There is a bit more but I'll keep it short.

The SPAM was kind of flirty and fun. Good eye contact. Me, I just ignore it all. I know it's there, but I dont know what to DO with it. How to/If to/Do I do anything. There is a major mental block. I ran into her several more times that evening when I just let it go, and it was never the same.

Be as it may that she's married, would ethics allow me to play with her? i dont know. However, the issue at it's core still applies and is all ME. I need to work though this.

lets imagine here that you could say or do anything without failure,

what would you try to say/do in this situation where she is obviously explaining the logistics of this situation to you?