Hey lads, I'm new to the forum but I've been reading threads on here for quite some time now. Don't usually struggle enough with girls to have to ask other people, but this situation has me stuck!

Anyway, I had a party at my house a week ago for my 2 best mates' birthdays. A HB8 from college came who I've had my eye on for quite a while, and as soon as she walked in I gave her the eye and I knew I'd fuck her before the nights over. We had good conversation all night with a few mates but there was definitely a rapport between the two of us, and later we took it to the bedroom. The sex wasn't the best I've ever had, but I'm sure I pleased her and was definitely in control.

Now this is where it gets a little embarrassing. We were both pretty drunk and I vaguely remember going off on a speech about how I don't want it to be a one night stand and I really care about her (given I barely knew her before the party, it was the booze talking). She said she couldn't promise me anything but would think about it. After this point the night is a blur, and I could have said literally anything, like I said I was smashed.

Anyway, the next morning my mate asked me if i actually did want more, and in truth yeah I do. Then at my mates party, a friend told me that the girl told her weeks ago she was planning to fuck me at the party.
I've been out all week and have only just spoken to her today, a week later. I just asked her how she was but no reply.

Perhaps I'm reading into it too much and should just chill out?
If she is turned off I'll put it down to either the fact I've left it a week to speak to her, or whatever I may have said to her when drunk.

Advice and thoughts would be appreciated!

i'd just chill out. what i've learned is that girls often like the magic of one-night-stands, mainly because they don't have to deal with the repercussions. it's kind of a double standard, because some girls get mad if you don't text her the next day; but you run the risk of losing her if you badger her later on.

if she said "i'll think about it," she probably meant "i don't want to think about it." try to just be friends, and hang out. no pressure. but if she doesn't want to, be cool about it and understand it's no reflection of you.

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Yeah I see what you mean, you're probably right. The last thing I'd want to do is come on too fast anyway.

I guess if she doesn't know me well and planned to sleep with me, like you say its no reflection on me if she doesn't want a relationship!

exactly dude! you came, you saw, you pleased. on to the next one!

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You said the girl was drunk too,so do not think that you are the only one who made mistakes. It can be her too. Moreover,you both were pretty drunk,and after,it was YOU that didn't get the best,so it is the girl's mistake. You already said that you made the girl satisfied and in need of more of you. Now,you got clear of the situation.