Ok, so I have been hanging with this girl for about a month now. More times than not we end up in bed together. I was good with the situation, but the other night she forced a conversation and we both discovered we want more. The problem is she tells me "I'm too good for her", or "ill end up hurting her", or "shell hurt me" etc. I tend to rebuttal these objections, as being a salesman its what I do, but it has been to no avail. I'm now at the point where I'm just completely fed-up and ready to walk away, but this is really a great girl for me. What can be done to successfully close this girl?

When I have been in a similar situation before with a girl, to me it means one of 2 things.

1. She is afraid of getting hurt and doesn't want to commit.

OR

2. She is NOT wanting to be serious, so she is trying to scare you off without being direct.


I've had girls do the same thing who I was deeply connected to and when I thought things were going great between us. In my opinion, if you are serious about being with this girl and shutting out the others, just ignore her when she does that shit.

Listen to her, but then act as if she never said any of that shit and go on like you were beforehand. If she is shit-testing you and you just plow through it like you never heard her say that (but you of course listened when she said it), then time will tell.

If it is the number 2 scenario, then it will shake itself out eventually, and in the end if she walks out it wasn't something she wasn't going to do anyway.

In either scenario, having more than one girl of interest in your life is going to help you keep your cool, and your "I don't give a fuck" alpha status.

I've blown it in the past by acting too clingy or trying to "save" the "relationship" with these kinds of girls. And on the flip-side I've had long term FWBs and girlfriends who said the same thing to me at some point.

I've also noticed she loves to say the opposite of me. Whether it be for the sake of argument or something more serious she always says the opposite. Is there an effective way to use this in my favor?

If the abouve ^ advice doesn't help I would try that first, and she likes to say the opposite to you, let her know you are happy to move onto otehr woman with something like the message below.

"Well it's not my intention to hurt you and I sure hope it isn't yours, but if you feel that way fair enough".

Then go cold.

If she doesn't come back it's time to move on.

Yeah good advice LOL...

I was gonna say — sounds like a 2 year old... If you keep telling your 2 year old you aren't giving him a cookie until he tells you what it is, and he refuses to say the word because he thinks you are just going to give him the cookie anyway — and then all of a sudden you put the cookies away without giving him one... Guess what...

"COOKIE!!! COOKIE!!!!" he will start screaming at you to get you to bring them back out and give him one.

Sounds like you may have to treat this girl like a 2 year old and put the cookies away.