Met a HB9 older woman who is 35 at a bar on Sat. night. Things got hot and heavy....a lot of deep kissing, licking, hands under the shirt and pants for both of us. She seemed a little shy and insecure at first. When I said I thought she looked 29 and not 35, she said, "I love you". She also said several times, "Are you sure it doesn't bother you that I am 35". Her annoying sister was w/ her and made sure that she did not go home w/ me at the end of the night, although she spent most of the night pulling me to different areas of the bar to get us away from her sister.

I text her this on Sun. (next day): "Nice meeting you last night, (name)! I had a good time dancing"
She responds an hr. later: "Hi. I enjoyed dancing as well. I have not been out dancing in some time. Although I feel I should apologize. I am pretty sure I was unladylike last nite....

I text her this at 9pm last night, Wed.: "It is Hump Day...getting closer to the weekend. How has your week been going?"



I have not heard anything back. I am a bit baffled by this as there was a lot of physical chemistry there, and I was positive I would get a response... Anybody have any advice on where I went wrong or how to proceed? I plan on not saying anything else for at least a week unless I get message from her...

Hey man, to me this seems to be a classis case of "buyer's remorse"... basically she's ashamed of teh way she behaved in front of her sister, who as you described had been cockblocking all night, and is somehow not sure she wants to meet you again. For her it probably makes no sense to meet you due to the age gap and the poor odds of it being more than a fling... You should have taken advantage of the situation when you had the chance... BTW, did you try calling her, or just texted? Hope this heelps... Bye!

Thanks for the reply, brother.

She actually just responded this afternoon (Fri.):

"Hey! Sorry for late response girlfriend from dc in town. She likes to go and go. Hope u r having a great friday"

She is from Virginia Beach so it is viable she did get busy w/ a friend in town. I figured she may be feeling guilty about me contributing to her acting slutty (I was quite aggressive) in front of her sister and wondering if I just want to use her for a one night stand...

This girl had a smoking hot body so I would like to play my cards right and turn this into a consistent hookup.

I figure I need to step back and try to get her wanting to come to me since she was so late in responding...

What do you suggest I do now that she has replied???

You're welcome My suggestion is that you first call her, you may get more out of the interaction by talking than if you text, second make plans for meeting her w/o her sister, and third make it seem not as if you are asking her if she wants to meet you, bt assume that she has already agreed to the encounter... something along the lines of "We're going to this party at the *insert name of the club here*, I'll drop by to pick you up, be ready at 10 p.m..." give her no chance to say no, and if you get some 1 on 1 time with her, chances are she'll feel more at ease with your advances... If your place is somewhere on the way, stop there for a few minutes and ask her to join you, so she gets familiar with the location... Make sure to point out "Let's go upstairs for a minute, I forgot *insert object you forgot here*, we'll just be a minute... After the party you will meet no resistance from her about going to your place, as she's already been there earlier during the day... Let me know how it turned out... Good luck!