Hey PUAs,
A little backstory.
I'm very new to getting back into the dating scene. I took a 1.5 year break after my crazy ex and just got back into it a month and so ago. I think I may have fucked this up, but it's a tricky situation nonetheless.
Anyway, Saturday I went in for a deep tissue massage and had great chemistry with the masseus, whom I ended up number closing. We're getting coffee on Wednesday, so I have 2 days to prepare. Now here's the hurdle:
She's in a relationship.
And here's the opportunity:
It's an open relationship.
I'm not looking for something serious, as I'm here temporarily - so this is a seemingly good fit. However, I don't know the exact terms of her relationship. Let me give you the samples of our text conversation:
Code:
ME
"Hey, it was great meeting you today. Not just the massage, but I was surprised how much we were on the same page."
Her
"Likewise, you're a really good dude."
ME
"Would you be opposed to coffee? I have a bit of a fondness for "
Her
"I love coffee. Have you ever been to ?"
Me
"I can't say I have, but im all about hidden gems. What's your schedule like tomorrow?"
Her
(Two texts in a row)
"Tomorrow I have a couple clients and im training 2 girls"
"I do want to say this, because I do not want to give you the wrong impression. But I am in a relationship, and as I would love to grab some coffee and chat because we have good chemistry and great conversation, it won't be a date... Ugh I hope I don't sound presumptuous."
ME
"Well that's the fastest I've ever been friendzoned! Just kidding, I know - you mentioned it during the session. My schedule the upcoming week is generally free past 6:30. What day works best for you?"
Her
"Okay, I just wanted to make sure because I'm not out to hurt or deceive anyway. Just trying to be respectful. After 6:30 wednesday or friday works"
ME
"I respect that. Let's set this up. Wednesday, 8pm - . How's that sound?"
Her
"Got it in my calendar. I'm glad you found respect in it, because there are many other directions that convo could have gone."
So here's what I picked up from my interaction with her (not the texting, but in person). Conversation was super fluent, she started opening up about me regarding her life, personal relationships, philosophies, etc, and we were at a point where we were completing each other's sentences.
My conclusion - Rapport between us is hot, chemistry is very high, and body language signals were obvious. She's interested, but conflicted about the current relationship. I have a chance to snag her, and this is where you guys come in - am I being delusional, or is there a way I can play the cards to my favor?
NOTE - she doesn't drink, hence the coffee shop idea
CHAT