He guys,

I would really like to get your ideas on the following situation, will try to keep it short!

A couple of months ago I got to know this really nice girl from work. We started of as normal colleagues sometimes, sometimes having a chat at the coffee machine/copier (how typical), from having the occasional lunch together, to traveling to and from work together (she lives in the same city as I do). I felt that slowly a bit of tension was coming along, but knew things could become awkward if it went wrong. As weeks past by it seemed mutual attraction was increasing, so I invited her along for a date. I cooked her a nice dinner (lasagna) and had a great evening. I didn't had her kiss closing and took that as feedback to practice more on getting the whole kino process etc together. However after this night we kept hanging out at work more and more. A week and a half ago we decided to go for drinks in a pub close by. In the pub we sat next to eachother and things started to get more intense. There was mutual touching, holding hands and we were sitting really close. Than when she seemed ready to kiss, I took my chance. When I however tried to kiss her she backed off and started to explain that she had a boyfriend and that she had wanted to tell me for a long time. I felt a bit confused by the whole situation, but imagined their relationship wouldn't be too serious, as we were dating and touching etc. She also told she hadn't seen him for a while. After that she didn't seem to chance her mind and things ended up getting uncomfortable, so we left the pub.

I felt quite shitty by the whole situation and slept bad and had headaches for a number of nights in a row. Than Monday (obviously) we saw each other at work. We were both ignoring and avoiding each other. The situation felt really tense. On the way back home in the train, she texted me that she really wanted to talk. When I met her at the station, she looked tired and worn-out, like she didn't had any sleep for a number of nights. She told me she felt incredibly guilty with the whole situation and that she didn't mend to betray me etc. She was wondering how to deal with it during work. I told her that it would be alright to just say hi sometimes when we see eachother during work, but I wouldn't be too keen on hanging out any longer, having lunch, traveling together etc. Yesterday, when we were both at work again, things remained awkward. We said hi a few times, but apart from that I've been ignoring her a bit..

So that's the situation now. I started reading The game half a year ago and read numerous pickup books after that. Been practicing quite a bit ever since and it feels like I'm making great progress. I often have number/kiss closes in the pub, which didn't use to happen a year ago. I am however not at all familiar with this situation. I still like her very much and although I do not really expect its gonna work out, I would love for things to work out different in the coming weeks. Either way, next time I would like to avoid a similar situation. So if you guys have any tips/feedback etc, it would be really appreciated!

Thanks a lot!

I work with a bunch of bitches, no men just bitches. I DO NOT GAME THEM.

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Mmm any other tips/feedback/critique?

Text her and ask her to meet you for lunch. During lunch, say to her " Listen, I don't like how things are at the moment. You are an incredible woman and I really enjoyed your company. If you cannot date, that's fine but it doesn't mean we can't be friends and continue to enjoy each others company. We are both adults and we should not have this uncomfortable vibe between each other just because we find each other attractive.

Here's the thing, she obviously showed interest. You could of fucked her if you played it right. Even if you sleep with her, if you establish a friendship with her first, it( sex, regret) can be put under the bridge in no time........And you can still be friends, as long as you keep the lines of communication open.

Things got weird only because you let it, she was adult enough to come clean with you, I suggest you do the same.

It's not really in your best interest to get involved with women at work, but if you have to, be sure to keep the lines of communication very very open with each other, so you can work through any potential weirdness.

I suggest just being friends. Who knows what her situation will be down the road, she may become single.

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Seduce their mind and the rest will follow.

This is troubleshooting at best.

Women will cheat on their boyfriends. It's nature. Boyfriends who are skilled enough in building deep emotional connections, giving the girlfriend enough orgasms (very few men can tell a fake woman's orgasms from a real one and most women fake their orgasms according to several prominent studies), maintaining high sexual hormonal levels, and keeping the romance alive through a consistent emotional roller coaster ride are the ones who can keep their girlfriends faithful and loyal.

Your hot babe's boyfriend has at the very least built enough emotional connections with her to resist your kiss close. But I doubt it if she has been getting enough orgasms that her body needs. This explains your near successful kino escalation. Her guilt won over her libido which roughly translates to:

Deep Emotional Connection > Need for Sexual Gratification

SexAddict911 has offered excellent advice already. Hence, I won't delve on that.

Instead, I will advice you to keep the proximity to trigger her sexual urges again and build deep emotional connections with her. Anchor your wide rapport routines on her childhood experiences. When you find something that sparks her eyes and make her happy go into deep rapport with her and restart your kino escalation.

Remember, to keep a woman you'll need to:

• 1. Build deep emotional connections.
  
  2. Give her lots of orgasms for the oxytocin boost which strengthens attachment.
  
  3. Maintain high levels of sexual hormones.
  
  4. Give her enough of her emotional roller coaster ride (simply known as drama) needs.

I have fuck closed a few girls who never mentioned their boyfriends and some even denied having boyfriends which later turned out to be untrue. This troubled me a lot and so I looked for the scientific basis why. I gave you the why and the how. If you want the scientific journals, just drop me a PM and I'll send some your way when I have the time.

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Much thanks to both of you for your advice! I just met up with her for a cup of coffee. She seemed truly happy to see me. It was really great talking things over, I feel at lot better now the air has cleared. To me it seems that building a deep emotional connection is a good way of communicating, no matter what. Even if things aren't gonna work out between us.. Regarding the 'many orgasms', I am still a virgin (age 23)..... Anyways, the orgasms wouldn't come instantly I suppose. But I'm doing the preparation work, have been reading numerous sex books lately One writer even mentioned that through using his methods some people had a girl having as much as 50 orgasms! ....

Btw, one thing I never read about on the forum or in any of the pickup books. Would you guys explain a girl that you're still virgin before going into sex?

Again much thanks!

I couldn't resist to post a small update. Rather than staying in my own mindspace, I would very much like to hear some fresh perspectives! Will try to keep it short and leave out irrelevant details..

After meeting up for a coffee and talking things through last weekend, the next days at work were fun, we were (like before) hanging out together, having lunch and traveling from work. On a few occasions, she even proposed to catch up to go sporting etc. So Thursday night shit hit the fan.. She was studying in the library and texted that she was bored and asked me to come over for coffee. This frankly seemed rather boring so after texting back and forth for a while, I told her to come over for a beer, which (to my surprise), she agreed to. Sitting on the couch together, we were having great fun, time flew by and it was 2am before we knew it. Just like last time in the pub there was mutual touching, holding hands etc.. Than just before she left she couldn't resist and we first kissed. She obviously still felt quite guilty towards her boyfriend, so the whole kissing thing was quite short.. Than Yesterday we saw eachother again at work and decided instead of taking the train to cycle back home. This took a good two hour bike ride, but we were having real fun. Halfway through we had a break and lay in the grass together, bit of hugging etc etc. Today it was our last day at work together (She starts a new job next week) and during lunch she asked me to go for a walk. Here she told me it would be better if we would not see eachother again and that it would be not worth breaking up with her boyfriend for. We discussed the situation, the walk was tense, really tense.. Although she seemed persistent, she was still touchy, holding hands, hugging etc... It seems like she is very much attracted to me, but just like Hellhound explained guilt wins over her libido.. So again she leaves me quite confused. She often tells me how much she likes me etc etc, but it's obviously not easy for here to break up with her boyfriend.

Now, rather than brooding about and sleeping bad for several nights, I much rather hear your perspectives and advice. Since getting into the pickup community half a year ago I have met dozens of girls, got loads of numbers and often had kiss-closes, which ofcourse is great. However, this girl and I have been hanging out for about three months now, we have a great connection, I probably know her just as well as my best friends... I feel attached to her, she seems much more valuable than just a random hot girl in the bar.... I'm tired of dragging on and feel slightly inadequate to handle the situation for the best. End of the story, I would love for us to get more serious.

So concluding, would you guys take the bitter pill and leave it as it is, or go for a different strategy... I'm very curious how more experienced people would handle this situation! Any critique, feedback, tips, comments etc etc are welcome!
Again great thanks! After the first post you guys really helped me out!

Based on your update, it seems that your sarges are working. Her anti-slut defenses are up though. In this case, let your dick, err, testosterone be the guide. Make out and when she pulls those, "I think we shouldn't do this. I have a boyfriend." Say something like, "You're right. We shouldn't do this." But keep on making out with her until she brings the issue up again.

Repeat and rinse.

Study some last minute resistance techniques so you'll be prepared for the next encounter. If you're familiar with human anatomy, kiss the areas where the greatest numbers of nerve endings are or areas that are closest to her spine. Try the nape or her earlobes. To turn a woman on, you can massage her back with slight, slow, tingling touches up and down her spine while you subtly grind your hard cock on her ass. This is done while she's still clothed.

If you can give her a breast orgasm, then much better. But this requires technique and not every girl can have one.

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