Last night I went to a house party (Im 21) and I spent the first hour(ish) with the (male) friends I went with drinking my beer and talking to them, like an afc, looking at all the attractive girls there wishing I could just talk to one of them but not having the courage or knowing what to say like an afc.

Eventually I just broke away from them, I had noticed a pretty japanese girl standing by herself and forced myself to go and talk to her, I couldn't think of a more imaginative opener than "hi" but it seemed to work well and she looked relieved that someone was talking to her. That wasn't nearly as hard as I thought it would be.

Then me and her spoke for quite a long time probably around 40 mins or so total, and I was getting all good signs, full on eye contact, standing very close to each other, and she was laughing, a lot.

I felt myself running short of things to say so I slipped away for a while back to my friends, spoke to some other guy I'd never met before (He didn't speak English and I only speak English, so that was quite entertaining).

Than I went back to Japanese girl, spoke to her again, asked for her number (big step for wussy me) which she gave, I made her laugh a few more times, went back to my friends for a bit and left.







Even if the number is fake or is real but amounts to nothing I don't really care about that, I didn't go out to pull but I got that and its a good confidence boost. We're both in the final year of Uni and there aren't many weeks left and the easter holiday starts week after next. How would you play it from here?

Firstly , thanks for such an amazing post. It's good to hear positive stories from people which just started becoming PUA's .

From my point of view. She was alone. You jumped in and entertained her. You were original and different since nobody else was talking to her. You got to her and there are high chances that she already likes you, a lot.

From my marshal art teacher i learnt that it's all about the flow of combat which you need to follow. Do the same with this girl.

Plan to do something interesting, it could even be a simple walk, and ask her out by explaining what your are up to and how great it would be if she could join you.
That last sentence i picked up from the movie ,,The tourist'' (Never ask questions, but instead give options which she can take or leave) .

About you. I think you are doing great since you can beat yourself in this AA battle, and stay cool and actually break the ice. You have great potential and you don't really need this advice. You can do this ,just don't over analyse since that the biggest enemy of ,,novice'' .
Your story is inspiring and i enjoyed reading, so probably you are a good storyteller (big PLUS no?) Good luck, ask her out , you can't lose anything really

Thanks also for such a nice reply

I like the suggestion about giving options rather than asking questions as well, somehow its more me ya know.
I'll be doing this

I was expecting it to be quite intimidating (ever wonder why the second half of that word is "dating") but frankly it was more fun than scary haha.

I'ts definately given me the confidence to try it more often.

House parties are the best opportunities in the world. People EXPECT to meet everyone!

Next time, as soon as you get there, avoid your buddies, and just walk around learning people's names and one fact about them. Make it a game.

"Hi, I'm Eternal." is ALL it takes! Every conversation will take a different path, and there's no need to try and figure out what to say beforehand.

Just say "Hi" and then try to find a fact in something they're wearing, their accent, their friend, their attitude, ANYTHING.

As soon as you get your one fact about them, go meet someone else!

This tactic is great, because once you have your fact, the next time you see them around, you can greet them by name (people love when their name is remembered) and immediately jump into something interesting.

Let's say Allison has a lip-ring. You met her and found that her parents didn't want her to get it, but she did anyway. She's ugly, but you met her anyway! Now she's in a circle of people and one of them is hot!

"Allison! What's going on? [arm around her] Did you guys know that Allison is a rebel? She isn't afraid of anybody." [they say whatever] "I haven't met some of you yet. Hi, I'm Eternal."

All of a sudden the hot girl is introducing herself to you, no one in the circle knows you, but they all WANT to know you! Especially when your buddy rolls up, or another girl that you said hi to comes up and enters the conversation and you have a fun fact about her to use, too!

That stuff might be a bit advanced, but it's based on really simple concepts. All it takes is a focus on the game, acquiring names and facts, instead of your social anxiety. By being the first one to put yourself out there, there's no fear of meeting new people anymore, you already know everyone!

I hope this post helped. I'm young, and haven't gotten to the bar or club scene yet, but I can rock a party. PM me if you ever have questions.

Thanks another excellent post, I've never really thought of them as the hidden gold mines they are before, I like your tactic as well, can't wait to try that out for myself.

"Hi Im Eternal" actually sounds kinda cool haha

well, what do you know, its even a real number