Okay guys well I went out with this girl a month ago and she has been showing decent levels of interest...not super amounts but decent enough...she said just before we went out (5/6 wks ago) that relationships are complicated and she doesnt know if she wants one... (not with me btw just in general)

we have talked pretty often since then and her bff seems to be pushing for something to click between us...

now here is the question...while on the phone with her she said she has alot of reading to do (some novel) for college on monday...said her weekend will probably be filled up with alot of reading...

btw the convo went great and i ended the convo

now i was going to ask her out before she said that...do u think i should still ask her out? valentines weekend and all lol...hmmmm...

thanks

No. She will be happier if you just let her get her reading done. And there is no need to mix the emotional complexity that V day brings at the start of a relationship. I would wait until mid next week to ask here out.

How were you planning on doing it? Date plans?

Hey,

When a girl shows mediocre interest and tells you that she doesn't want a relationship, it usually means that she wants to fuck around a.k.a "having fun"

Basically, mediocre interest results because when girls shows regular amount of interests to guys, guys normally jump all over them and become attached and needy for no reason.

Second, she is telling you she doesn't want all the complications that come with in a relationship. The only complication that results from being in a relationship is the "being obligated/committed" to the other person.
No obligation means freedom(no strings attached), freedom means experiments, experiments means "fun"(usually sex).

She will have fun with a guy who understands her and won't judge her for wanting fun. If you want to f*ck this girl, than be that guy, BUT

and this is the only BUT. Do not fall for her in anyway. This is not one of those situations were if you just put in the time she will eventually like you. Don't be that guy. Just enjoy the situation for what it is and enjoy her.

Last by not least, valentines is associated with couples/relationships, don't bring that around her, specfically not now. And don't bring up dating, since that also associated with soon to be couples/relationship.
Just ask her to hang out some time after her readings to catch a few drinks, and watch a movie at your place. done and done, don't complicate this one..

hope that helps,

Samex

This girl has given you every sign that she just isn't that interested. No offense. If you haven't sealed the deal after a month of chasing it's more than likely not going to happen. Her telling you that relationships are complicated in general.... most likely geared towards you. again no offense but you're probably in the friends zone at this point. Don't chase her... just let it be.... don't put any pressure on her and avoid the relationship talk. And if you do happen to hook up take it for exactly what it is... a hook up... And there is def nothing wrong with that.

okay fair enough guys. i wont ask her this weekend for sure and yea i see why u say that lol

but if i went out i'd go to the beach + boardwalk with her in the evening/night.

your a man! don't talk to much about this kind of topics. GIVE her some comfort! and don't talk about comfort.

Yeah lol, might just drop her altogether though. Plenty more girls out there and I really like my ego lol...but as david deangelo says u have to prove + deal with rejection so i might still try a thing...cuz even if she rejects me i'll be fine.