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Time/1:21/Me: Omg can you beleive a blue whale's tongue weighs as much as an elephant!? That’s ridiculous.. How do you think they wieghed the whales tongue ? Gotta like the animal planet during the lunch break lol
That's a massive text. There's alot in their that can be picked at which is good, the girl has options. But that problem is, she can't focus on one particular thing. Personally when I read that, i'm think woah whale's tongue weighs as much as elephant cool. Then you asked how do you think they weighed it, than you mention gotta love animal planet during lunch break. IF I am a girl I have no idea what your exactly trying to say, more importantly this conveys that your thinking alot of things at once. which is why you get the response
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Time/1:34/Hb: Haha your silly, that's super crazy!!!
In this response, she is flirting. She comfortable to call you silly, and she's letting you know that's super crazy(tongue weighing as much as elephant)
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Time/2:34/hb: Ha thanks for the put down loser :'(
When is the next time your free ?
I'm assuming you wrote this...she's not putting you down. That was a misread for sure. Second, asking her whens the next time she is free w/o having talked to her, without establishing anything with her, is too vague, and puts her in an awkward position. Because if she responds with a certain day, than she may have to commit to doing something with you. This is why you get the next response.
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Time/2:35/hb: Haha I'm not dissing on you
umm I have dance practices and a lot studying to do...idk when I'll be free next...
Here she confirms that she wasn't putting you down...next, she obviously gives excuses to nicely say that "i dont know if I want to hang around with you, YET". Basically you got this response because of your text before this, that made her say this.
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Time/2:48/me: Damn so that means you wont be able to rob a bank with me. Looks like im gonna have to find a new acomplice
. This of course is just between me and you. I can trust you right ?
You start this part of the text really well. It shows that your just joking and just having a good time. But its way too long. and your asking another question. This question, with your earlier question of asking her when your free shows neediness. In her mind, she thinking its not worth going along with this, because she is not having fun in the conversation. If she's not having fun in this conversation, she prolly won't have fun when shes goes out with you.
I broke your texts down for one reason and one reason alone. To show that YOU and you ALONE, directed this conversation. This is good and bad.
Bad, because you failed at leading it to where you wanted it go(i'm assuming you wanted a date of this)
Good, because I wanted to show you how you were DIRECTING her responses. The same way you have the ability to DIRECT a girl to saying no, YOU also have the ability to DIRECT the girl into saying yes. Which means you are in control. DONT EVER FORGET THAT.
What to do from here?
Analyze the conversation and take some of the feedback. Look at how neediness was displayed in your texts and see how you can change this around.
You said " i dont want beat my self up. Cause there are more girls out there and im just trying to learn."
Thats a fantastic attitude, keep it up and you'll be fine
Hope this helps,
Samex
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