ok so I was out with my friends last night at a local bar. my friend doesn't know anything about winging but inadvertently opened up a set (guy/girl). he was talking to the guy and I came in from the side and started talking to the girl. my boy and her guy friend left us to talk.

I got lucky by asking her if she was Greek. She goes OMG no one ever knows that blah blah. Convo went very smooth, kino escalation. She said I got to use bathroom meet me out here later so we can do shots...I didn't realize this but she had my lighter still.

The part I think built the most attraction during the first interaction was she said she watches this show and her and her friend make fun of the 500 lb fat girls trying on wedding dresses. I called her out on it...I said wow you're fucked up...the last thing a beautiful girl like you should be doing is putting people like that down...if anything you should try to make them feel better about them selves.

20 minutes later I went back outside and saw her sitting on the bar...I went up to the side of her and bumped into her..."you know you stole my lighter don't you" and she opens up her hand...she goes "i was waiting for you" She goes "i feel so stupid about what i said before...i'm really a good person i swear"

she kept qualifying herself over and over again...anyways we did shots...bj shot for her and patron for me. after...heavy kino began...tons of kissing...very passionate...got her number and eventually had to get back to my friends and that was the last time i seen her.

anyways that was saturday. I sent her a message tonight saying " I just saw a 500lb woman trying on a wedding dress and thought of you."

an hour later

she goes "Hahaha that's funny...What's up?"

i wait an hour

I go "How was the rest of your bday? 3 bj shots in a row...you're a champ!"

it's been almost 2 hours and no response.

She seems about an hb 7-8, she was pretty drunk (not wasted, slurring her speech or falling over but it was her bday and she was having fun) , 21 yrs old (i'm 24), the whole interaction was 1 1/2 hours to 2 hours.

Any advice here?

Never heard back from her...is there anything I can do here for a recovery? It's mind blowing how you can have what seems like an amazing night with a girl in your mind...you look at her and she seems genuinely happy and then...the next day...nothing.

What are you putting across in your texts?

Hi! Let's talk! About what? Oh I dunno... Hey! That thing happened the other night! Remember that??

I'm not sure if you can see it, but that's a needy way to hold a conversation. It shows you have nothing better to do, that you're trying to win her over.

Your first text was fine. She replied. You should have said (and still can say) "It's been a busy day... I've been thinking about you, when can we meet up?"

The busy day part isn't even important. Neither is the thinking about you part. But your texting should have a GOAL. The first goal is always to get the second meet-up. A later goal over text can be to get to know her better, so you're sure she's the girl you want, but in-person is much more important than texting.

I recommend calling her on the evening of whatever day you read this. Ask her out and be direct about it.

man...thanks a lot bro. damn neediness. you're right I didn't see that.