Hi guys, I'll try to make long story short.

Basically I went to a couple of dates with this girl, I feel that we both enjoyed. She's busy because of her stressful job and her two kids (4 and 3) so I knew that it would be hard to meet her offen, but we talked a lot online. I'm youger than her (23/29) and I'm self-employed, work at home, and not busy at all.

At one point after ten days without meeting (I asked her several time, she declined pretending that she was too busy) she texted me the famous " don't have time for a bf... hope we'll stay friends" SMS.

Afterward we talked a bit still, I actually played the guy who take it easy. I went out a lot to meet other girls. Nothing much happened, but she knows that I went out a lot. Basically everytime I go out her best friend is here, so she probably knows that I went out a lot.

She invited me at her place for the Xmas lunch, she introtuced me as a "friend" and we just spend time with her family and kids and didn't talk much together.

So I know that it's very likely that we'll meet in the middle of the new year's night, like we're hanging out at the same place.

I know that most of the time when a girl friendzone you like she did, being busy etc is just an excuse, but I have a serious crush on her and I hope that somehow I can get her back. Some facts makes me think that it is actually possible. Maybe it's hopeless, but I think it worth a try.

So let's say I meet her at our favorite club around 2am, we'll be probably both a bit drunk. How should I act, what's the best things I should say? I feel like it will be THE moment or never, so I want to do the best.

TY for your help

first and foremost stop hanging out with her as friends and doing things in the friends frame of mind.

The best advice ive read is to only talk to her or text her about what a great lifestyle you have and how your enjoying the company and/or sex from many attractive woman, but still searching for that special girl. Over time this raises you status enough you have a chance for more with her if you can get her to buy into your exciting lifestyle.

The chances are still low so you are better off going after other woman in the mean time and putting her on the back burner. The fact always are that the more you care the less chance you have

She says she's stressed from her job and two kids? She says she doesnt have time for a bf?

She doesn't have time for a bf, but I bet she'd have time for a good quick fuck. Lay low for a bit then reemerge as the guy she can imagine having sex with. You should be that guy she goes to to unwind from a stressful day. And by unwind I really mean bone.