Okay to summarise -

Met a girl 2 months ago. Kissed her on the first night.
Week later met her again in a club, kissed her again.
Then went on a date.
Went out on many other nights out together.
Texting, FB'ing constantly.
She asks me first to take her back home with me.
Sex twice (missed a few chances due to bad luck on both our parts).
My friends found my phone and text her saying 'I love you'.
She stops responding.
Explained that it wasn't me.
She explains that maybe we should 'chill' because it seems we're both after two different things and she isn't looking for a relationship (Nor am I damnit!!).
I decide to take the prideful route and just not bother initiating contact - she said she still wants me to text her and we could still meet up now and then.
I'm still barely initiating contact via text or fb, its always her right now.
Met again by chance in club this saturday gone, she was doing random things like winking at me and slapping my bottom.
She walked up to my sister in the club and said "Hey you're xxxxx's sister!"
Since that day she was back to talking like normal on fb, though im not flirty anymore

Is it worth even salvaging something from this? What do you guys make of this giant hot mess? Beyond a state of repair or should I press on? Am I doing the right thing by just ignoring her for now? :\

I would cut contact for some time and see if she re initiates contact. If so, you could wait a bit and say something like "it's been a while. I bet you're missing me all the time." and see how she responds. Might be able to re-steer the relatinonship so it;s more casual

okay so ive followed this advice and tried my best not to contact her - which I havent - but SHE keeps contacting ME via fb, she'll always say hey first - other things to note - ive spoken about going out of town with friends and she started asking why i didnt invite her, i replied she wouldnt come anyway, and she said that i guess ill never know now will i?

my replies to her now are mainly like i dont give a monkeys about her and just act kind of jokey - what do i do now? should i just cut contact entirely for a week and not reply even if she starts the convo? then just see how badly she wants it? im confused - heeeelp D:

Ok You dont want a Relationship,She said she dont want a relationship.. You guys kissed multiple times and you banged her (Strong Kino History). Im glad you been treating her the way you do (thats major DHV).. and her sudden change of behaviour havent phased you a bit. Now its clear she digs you! and still wants you as a "lover" (musta made an impression banging her lol).
So i see nothing wrong with keepin her as a (FWB) Friend with benifits.and when she asked why you didnt invite her to come along? i wouldve simply said "We wouldnt want you to get the wrong idea.. Again! lol"
but I gota ask whats up with your friend? lol anyway goodluck dude.

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lol your friend PWNed you so hard

Sweet, this is all pretty encouraging stuff! She keeps asking me to text her and so on now, im pretty sure that ill meet her this weekend when im out. Dude all I can say about my friend is that he was trying to be a little doucher - as we all are to each other haha, I wasn't mad at him at all because of it, infact its made the entire thing better for me overall - at the very least if I fail here, I come away with new knowledge and experience of a different situation! I'll keep you lot posted, if I smash her this weekend imma shout out both your usernames midway.

You should definitely 'salvage' the relationship. How many girls do you come across that will have consistent sex with you? Very few.

Look, part of being a man is overlooking your own shit. So she wanted some time (and guys are naturally impatient), she got it. You should be the one telling her to slow down. It's ok to take some time.

My recommendation is this, do everything like before, but be the one that is saying to slow down, let's take it easy, maybe we should get to know each other better; statements like that.

That's what girls usually say and it makes us crazy about them. Reverse it.

So after following the advice written on these boards and this topic this is what happened -

Went out last night after hugely just ignoring alot of her texts and messages on facebook and making her start all convos. She was out last night and she text me asking me to come meet her in the club.

Went in with a girl - friend (buddy or whatever) and her amazingly hot friend. I was gaming her friend and according to my friend she really likes me and she was trying to dance with me, was holding my hand all over the club, so wow, bit of sucess already, out of the blue!

Girl who this topic is about sees me, drags me over, instantly starts kissing me. Within moments im trapped in a tug of war, at this point I think I must've had a spiked drink, because this is unreal! Dragged over to one side, girl kisses me fiercly. Go over to the other my friends friend grinds with me.

Basically end result - ended up at hers, did my business and the other girl just added me on fb and is constantly talking to me.

All in all going to keep it on a FWB level.

What can I say? It's a freakin Christmas Miricale!! Awesome. Love you guys. Merry Christmas! x

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Success is my only motherf***ing option, failure is not!

Good shit bro, always game multiple girls until you are in a relationship.

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Ha ha you mate screwed you but it's all good as it you do it to each other as for ur final result fair play to u mate - keep up the work!