Hooked up with this girl last weekend(k-closes). Got her number, and said I would text her the next day. My first text was a little AFC:

"Hey, we're planning a movie night at my place. Would you like to join? Styleh."

*Half an hour later.

"Can't, going to a birthday party :)"

*After this text I decide to wait some days before I try re-engaging convo. So, I wait exactly four days.

"Quick! Quick!! Beer or wine? Beer or wine???!"

*No response, so I just figured she was lost. But then, I get this text this the next morning.

"Didn't see your message before now, sorry:)"


Now I really don't know what to do. I should probably try and neg her for her late response, but how? Need some help guys!

Don't neg her just try to re-engage her by calling her to get her buying temperature up on you again. You've gone a while without talking much. Get some calls or texts going to strike up some convo and help her remember why she liked you to begin with. Then try again.

Don't wait 4 days between that stuff again. 24-48 hours at the longest!!! 4 days she things you've lost all interest and then she looses her interest.

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I don't think calling is the best idea... Too forward imo.

I thought since it's been so long between our texts that I could get a way with a little push-pull so I sent her this now:

"The text wasn't ment for you But how's it going anyway?"

Too forward!!! You just kiss closed her in a club and got her # how the hell is calling her too forward?!? Calling is better than texts because there is less to be misinterpreted and it gives you uniterrupted conversation flow that you need to up her buying temperature.

You don't need to go back and be all cocky funny with your texts and trying to build attraction. NEWS FLASH she is attracted to you she kissed you and gave you her #. You need to build rapport with her so that she becomes comfortable enough to meet you on a day 2.

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The thing is that I don't think she's too attracted to me after the first text. I read somewhere that you should never ask a girl out via text, and leaving my name was plane stupid. I was also really forward in the club, and I'm afraid I came off as a little bit needy when I tried to pursue things further that night. So I figure calling might come off as even more desperate.

But I'm no expert at this, so maybe your right.

Dude I've been doing this a while... Some would call me an expert but I just consider myself experienced.

She kissed you and gave you her # she's attracted to you PERIOD. I don't care what her first text said! Keep in mind not everything you read is solid advise especially in this community. Many "rules" out there can be broken or bent.

You like the chick asking her out is not NEEDY it's not dumb, and doing it over text is pretty much the normal thing to do these days. I ask girls out via text all the time. You are doing things right. Try not to over analyze everything on what's needy or not.

Let's make this simple...super simple. You liked the girl, you met you talked, she liked you back, you kissed, you got her #. Congrats!!! Now you are trying to get her out on a date. Nothing wrong with that cause you like each other. Nothing needy or wrong about persuing things...that's how relationships start.

Call her up talk to her for a while so she gets comfortable with you and try to work out a time for you two to go hang out in person. PLEASE.

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Ok, thanks. Should I call her now, or wait for a reply?

I'll add that I'm not desperate about this girl. Actually sent the "beer or wine?" text to three different girl that I've hooked up with in the last weeks. One of them responded right away, and we're now set for a date on saturday. It was all just a little experiment to help me improve my text game. But, ofc, I'd really like to see this girl again if I could. But if it fails, I can easily move on

I'd call today

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