Hi All! I went on a date with this girl whom I met online. Long story short, we were trying to set up a date for 2 weeks, but she kept canceling on me (twice). But we finally met for a coffee and then she invited me out to meet her friends, which I gladly accepted. I had a great time, all of her friends (mostly guys) were super cool.

So we were on a date for 7-8 hours; we did not drink that much, maybe 2-3 beers. At the end of the night, I drove her back to her car, and I hugged her, and then SHE kissed me. She invited me over for breakfast, but I just couldn't make it due to prior obligations. (So she may have felt rejected, which was the last thing I wanted her to feel).

So she texts me that very same night and asks me if I got home safely, I tell her I had a great time. The next day (Sunday) we texted a bit, and Monday we did not text.


So here's the deal: I texted her on Tuesday and asked her out again thinking she would love to see me again (she kissed me, which means she likes me, right?). I ask her if it works for her and she responds with:

Her: Maybe, I don't know yet.
Me: Okay, well I would like to see you, but if you cannot make it, no worries
Her: Idk, my friend just got kicked out of his house and is stauing with me over the weekend now. a little creepu cause his roommate claims he talked to himself. Creepy, no? Never a dull moment.
Me: Friends first, that is important. Don't kick him out if he talks to himself, tho! haha
Her: Of course not


So we actually saw each other again on Saturday, although under the most unusual circumstances. She invited me over to a bar to hang out with her "so called" guy friend who was staying with her over the weekend. Her text read, "We are going to X place for drinks." SO we meet up, and I end up talking to her friends. Later on in the evening she texts me "I want to kiss you" but I was being so polite to her friend that I did not want to make him feel uncomfortable.


A bit about her personality: She is very outgoing, dresses conservatively (yet sexy); I like her, simply put. There is just one little thing that has been bothering me as of lately: She canceled the first date TWICE, rejected my proposal of a second date (saying her guy friend was staying at her house), dragged her guy friend along (which was fine but I still wanted some alone time with her ), sometimes waits an entire day to respond to my messages. Is she playing with me? I just feel like she has canceled so many dates, and it makes me feel like I am more of an option than a romantic priority to her.


So the next day (Sunday, after we went out) she texts me and asks me if I had a good time, that I was funny last night (a little incident that happened), etc. Then I texted her by accident the following message:

Me: Chicken. I don't know my schedule tomorrow cause I have a meeting at 2. How badly do you need it? haha
Her: How badly do I need what?
Me: Oops wrong person. My roommate needed her proactive and is sleeping over @ her bf's house. She wanted me to drive it to her. lol
Her: That happens
Me: I chicken and pasta for dinner



I haven't heard from her since and I don't wanna be a pushy so I haven't contacted her (she didn't comment on my gourmet cooking lol). Does this come across as weird to you guys or am I just overanalyzing it? How often should I be contacting her after having met her twice? How do I text her next since she tends to cancel or come up with some excuse why she cannot meet?



HELP everyone! I may be suffering from one-ingitis here, but she is the first girl who showed a genuine interest in me since my ex gf and I broke up. It feels good spending time with her. :p

I believe, that you should contact her once a week or maximum twice a week. What I would suggest you, is that you should let her contact you to see if she really likes you. If she wants to meet again, you can say that you have to meet with your friends and if she wants to, she can join you. Show her, that you are a busy man and that she's not the main preoccupation. When you meet her, attract her by flirting with her a lot, teasing her and being a challenge. I wrote today an article about how to act on a date, that might help you http://seduceandattract.blogspot.com/20 ... -date.html.

why only twice a week? Is it not a good thing to establish some type of connection? I mean, I don't wanna play too many games and have them backfire? What do you think?

Your new to the game??

Listen man its your job to kiss her
you have to be able to show this girl that you can make things happen
a girl has a reputation to maintain
she will feel like a cheap slut if you don't make a move after all that
next time you see her kiss her
and don't hesitate
if app. do so when you first see her
also don't be afraid to reject her a little
a girl needs to feel like she has to work for you
read the ultimate text and phone game guide by braddock pm me I'll send you a place to get it.
Text her, give her an ultimatum you want to see her and she needs to deliver
your post showed some fundamental things lacking so if you haven't already go read "The Game" by neil strauss then check out "magic bullets" and i would even say go see what bobby rio at tsb mag has on the more basic stuff

Hey man! Thanks for the reply. Do you think she is playing me? I mean, she asks me to join her and her friend (who happens to actually be a relatively good looking guy, who stayed at her house over the weekend)? I asked her out last week and she texted me, Maybe, I don't know yet," which ended up being a no, seeing as her friend was staying at her house over the weekend. She texted me while in the bar (with the guy friend standing right there) saying "I want to kiss you."

I still haven't heard from her since Sunday. Last communication was:
Her: What did you have for dinner?
Me: Chicken. I don't know my schedule tomorrow cause I have a meeting at 2. How badly do you need it? haha
Her: How badly do I need what?
Me: Oops wrong person. My roommate needed her proactive and is sleeping over @ her bf's house. She wanted me to drive it to her. lol
Her: That happens
Me: chicken and pasta for dinner



No response since Sunday. Is there anything in this that would make her confused?
Next time I am in a situation where I get the feeling she wants to kiss, should I just take her aside and kiss her?

Yes