Party at my house went well last night. Basically, I managed to get a girl down to my bedroom after she showed a ton of interest. We were just laying there, holding each other....but I couldn't pull the trigger and start making out with her. Eventually she left my room...I got her to go back downstairs to my room later, went in for it and she backed off. She wasn't showing much interest anymore, probably because i didn't have the confidence to take control. She actually gave me the LJBFs line after that...I told her that I didnt need many more female friends (which is true) and just had her leave. She told me to come to my fraternity house with her, I said no.

The main concern I have is that I'm in college...normally I wouldn't give a fuck and say "onto the next," but this girl had been hanging around our house a lot. Should I text her apologizing? I really don't care if I get with this girl, I just want to keep her coming to our parties for the rest of the house's sake. Plus, she may have been blackout drunk too, possibly..

Eh, I'm at least making progress. When you screw up majorly, you see what you did wrong and fix it the next time. Everything will come together soon enough.

Don't worry about it too much. And definitely do NOT send any apologetic text (that is SOOO AFC). When you see her the next time, just act friendly and cool. Come up to her to say hi, chitchat for a minute and leave.

As for the "pulling the trigger", you should always do it once you have her in you bed lying next to you. Christ, I guess it doesn't take all that much courage to place your hand on her hip (or wherever) and see how she responds...

On the other hand I must give you some credit for being firm afterwards. Saying you didn't need any more female friends and refusing to join her to the fraternity house was a good step.

disagree. apologizing for being a pussy is a definite no, but you can turn it around, and make up shit, say your couldnt "do it" because you had just broken up with a gf, and as much as you wanted to you couldnt move on at the time (that way she wont think your necessarily a pussy, and she will respect that you didnt make out). Then say you know you need to move on, so you guys should hang out again. RESTART!

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FAIL PROOF PICK UP LINE: excuse my, im sorry to bother you but my father beats me, can i have your number.

+1

Reframe, turn your negatives into positives

This girl is confusing....hadn't even talked to her after the night, she randomly texts me and asks me to meet up with her and her friend at the mall. I made her text me for like 30 minutes (I was doing something else that was more fun, which I said lol) to try and get me to come. I needed something at the mall anyways, so I went after a while. And I made her reimburse me for gas.....honestly I don't really give a fuck if I ever get with this girl. Should I just friend zone her? Although maybe I have been FZed already...

I think you care more for her than you're willing to admit, but it's still very good she doesn't have a negative impact on your behavior. If you really don't care, just keep her as a friend with potential for benefits. How does that sound?

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rAFC and yes, I'm a chick.

I have bursts of being a lady, but it doesn't last long.

That's probably what's gonna happen. It's fine, I'm cool with it....onto the next haha