| So here's the details. She used to work for me, while her sister was on maternity leave. Once her sister came back she transferred to another store. Since she was responsible for training me, we never got along. She hated that I was an outsider that got the job she was supposed to have.
Nevertheless, one day she asked me for help with her car and I did. She was usually such a bitch that when she ended up being a damsel in distress, it was endearing. I saw that the bitch act was just that, an act. Her little defense mechanism. So when it came time for her to leave, I threw her a surprise going away party. It was small and at work, just a cake and her favorite co-workers. The trick was the night of the event I did everything in my power to make her miserable. When I surprised her at the end, she teared and was blown away. She told me that night before she left that she finally felt like she could relax around me.
Fast forward 6 months, now she's single and coming around MY store again. Lots of IOIs from her and kino. At the time, I played it down. I was in a relationship myself. Now about a month ago I get single. I had kept in contact with her friend and we used to go out for drinks. One night she got frustrated with us and said she wanted some inside jokes like we had and wanted me to take her out and get her drunk for her birthday.
I took her out, couldn't get her drunk (she's only 20). Made her night, all her friends bailed and it ended up being only the two of us and since I had requested it we were in crazy costumes. I was a pirate and she was a sexy clown. Memorable evening, lots of IOI and kino. I did not close. Like a moron, I did not close.
We've been going out for a few weeks now, pretty steady kino escalation. We hit a bump in that our mutual friend told me when I asked for help on an unrelated problem that she would not help me get HB to fall in love with me. I said that if HB was thinking I was in love she was mistaken. HB did not like that. We didn't talk all weekend.
After I texted once on Sunday and called once on Monday, I texted today saying that it was a misunderstanding and that I was not going to waste anymore time trying to get her to understand that. She texted saying she was caught up in that night and did not know how to say sorry. I told her she just had and asked where we would go from there. She said she was afraid that male female friendships never worked and she did not want to cross that bridge.
My question is simple, what's my next step? I want to ask her if she's afraid that she'll fall for me or that I'll fall for her. How can I get her to move past this bullshit "fear"? Am I wasting my time? She's not the only girl in my life right now, but she is the favorite. If it's not going anywhere, I got other shit to do.
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